Get Your Groove On with Happy Songs
Dance your blues away with Happy songs.
I dare you: Let your happy song flow from your heart.
Here is my Happy Songs playlist. These songs uplift my mood, brings a smile to my face and my body comes alive.
Today is the festival of colour or Happy Holi, celebrated by Hindus all over the world.
In the Southern hemisphere, we are in full force summer. Abundance of colour all around us. Caressing the eyes, soothing the senses, igniting our lives with passion and excitement. The vivid hues tantalising our taste and thirst for a vibrant life. Dazzling our dreams with pulsating energy. At times calming our minds and warming our hearts. A gentle glow glimmer of hope.
I love infusing colour in my life to create Happiness, Hope and Harmony. Every morning when I awake I ponder my day and select the colour that is needed for the day. Some days are filled with positive events and activities that are full of bright colours. Other days are filled with challenges that are dark and sombre. I love to use the rainbow of colours to start the day. It’s fun and easy way to create positivity and richness in your life. Colours invoke our emotions – either positively or negatively. Let’s see how we can use colours to impact our lives and happiness. (Scientist say colours can influence your mood)
Colours invoke pure pleasure and happiness. Infusing hope for something possible. There are many colours that might make you happy but the colours that I find to simply bring the greatest amount of happiness, hope and harmony into my life are red, black and orange.
Oh darling! These words feel so cosy and comfortable. They may have been your friend or foe for a long time. Depends your relationship with them.
This world of flaws may seem big but in fact you have been living very small.
In the world of Flaws, it can be debilitating and limiting. Its creates stories that keep you back in life and not allow you to try new things or engage with new people. The inner voice of fears, failures and fat is very tricky and naughty. Conjuring up stories to convince you that you are broken and need to be fixed. A few of the stories that live in the world of Flaws are:
I am so fat
I am ugly
I am not pretty
I am such a failure and looser
I earn little money
I have such a small house
My thighs are so fat.
I am boring
I am so weak
I am not educated enough
I am not smart enough
I am plain Jane
I hate myself for not being able to say no
I haven’t handled that situation very well.
People don’t like me…..
Do some of the stories in the world of Flaws seem as your own?
All our “flaws” are based on our own interpretations and perspectives. We fixate about certain aspects of our body, our appearance, our personality, our life, our work and consider them as “flawed.”
We all experience a sense of feeling flawed in certain aspects of our lives and at times in life. It’s a natural human condition. There is absolutely nothing wrong feeling this way. We all want to feel whole and have a sense of belonging. But, feeling flawed can rob us of our energy, our passion, our happiness, our confidence, and living our life. It’s one of the most painful ways to live and can result in a very dissatisfied life.
So, you see living in the world of Flaws is not so wonderful!!!
In the world of Flawsome we are flawed and fabulous at the same time. And it’s a great place to be. Now you must be curious how can one be flawed and fab at once. Well you can …
Step 1 Lets get real about your flaws
Acknowledge the limitations, weaknesses, faults, failings, inadequacies, imperfections, shortcomings. We just bringing them to light without judgement. We are not running away or avoiding them anymore. There is a personal power and freedom in acknowledging them.
Step 2 Feeling the Flaws
Express your underlying feelings for your perceived flaws. Is it fear or shame? Do you feel angry about something at work or with your career? Sad about people treating you badly? All these feelings create a sense discomfort, pain and unease. In these situations, we tend to suppress our emotions. The memory of the painful situation gets bottled up. By giving these feelings a voice you can unhook and unlock from the memory of the situation.
Step 3 Love being Flawsome
View your flaws with kindness and compassion. Love your flaws – this creates a safe space to accept our flaws and give us the courage to change our mindset about them. It allows healing and creates place for new possibilities, new stories to be told.
A world in which we can adore our flaws and fab side by side. Where the light and dark co-exist. Where we can love our fears, failures & fat. Being whole. Exploring, Discovering, Becoming. Where there is a possibility of living, large and light.
Would you like to live there?
Do you know that you’re very special and unique? There is no other person like you. You deserve to be loved by the most important person in your life — YOU. We celebrating the month of love starting with YOU. (YOU MATTER YOU SMART YOU KIND YOU POWER YOU ♥ HEART)
Practicing self-love can be tough for many of us, especially during trying times. It’s not about being self-absorbed or self-centred, it’s about getting in touch with ourselves, our well-being and our joy. We practice self-love so we can break through our limiting beliefs and create & live a life that we truly love.
Reality of life: People will come and go. Events will come and go. Day and night will come and go. But deep unconditional love for yourself will always remain with you, if you nurture and nourish it.
“Put these things on your TO-DO list today:
For many women money is a highly sensitive issue. Something uncomfortable and awkward. It is still a taboo subject in this day and age. It’s mind-blogging! Lifestyles have changed and roles of women in the family unit have evolved. Many are single breadwinners. Yet we women are still enticed by the romantic notion of Cinderella.
I am very surprised how many women (mostly independent, employed, sophisticated women, some of them self-identified feminists, some of them professionals, some of them new age feminine thinkers) have the fantasy that some man is going to rescue them financially.
A very dear friend (Sam) was involved with a very wealthy man. I was extremely surprised, when they broke up, at the reaction of our friends. Sam broke up with him. Our friends, who were all independent, employed, sophisticated women, were not particularly supportive. They were all kind of like, “He treats you so well, he’s so rich and he is so nice. What are you doing? Why you leaving him?” You can smell the fear…
It was just amazing to see these very successful, independent and educated women kind of reduced to women out of a Jane Austen novel. Scary!
In my women tribe we talk and write about divorce, sagging boobs and sex, but we don’t really talk about money in a way that is as profound or exploratory. I raise the topic at times but it falls to deaf ears. Why are so many women reluctant to talk openly about the role money plays in their lives and relationships?
I think its time to take your money power back NOW!. Why you need to take control now.
The good news: More women are now the family breadwinner (look at that!). The bad news: We still tend to pass the buck on important money matters, such as investing and retirement.
No need to be scared. There is so much information and knowledge out there to guide you and find solutions to suit your money personality. So be bold & brave take your money power back.
Money is evil. If you’re spiritual, you shouldn’t want abundance. It’s being greedy. (I used to believe it myself in the past but with experience I have changed my mind)
I can just imagine you cringing with this topic. Making you anxious, feeling uneasy and awkward. You can feel being exposed or you could be losing something valuable something very dear to your heart. It’s a common conversation that we do not want to have with ourselves or with others. It can change things very quickly and can be extremely scary. I am taking a risk today and just writing about something that is very uncomfortable for me. I have had a doubtful relationship with money most of my life…
My role models in my growing years did not have a great relationship with money or wealth. It took a long time for me to figure out the value and meaning of money and owning wealth. To hear my own inner truth and voice to have a meaningful relationship with money.
My personal belief is that money is connected to my inner truth and voice (spiritual). In fact, I’ve found that when money is consciously created and used, it complements very well with spirituality. The reason this is a courageous conversation to have is because if we feel that money is bad (even slightly), we’ll have a hard time creating financial abundance.
We’ll secretly feel like we should keep money at a distance.
We’ll experience guilt when we do make money.
People close to us will not like or love us if we have lots of money
Having lots of money can turn us into a bad person
And we’ll never be able to be at peace on the subject of money.
This is no way to live or feel about yourself. And it’s definitely not spiritual.
In this blog, I’ll give you 3 examples of why wealth and spirituality are highly-compatible. By understanding that
you’ll open the gates to attract more money & wealth into your life.
As a spiritual being, you are completely and infinitely abundant. You are abundantly gifted with Love, Peace, Power, Truth, Wisdom, Fulfilment, and Bliss. Do you think this part of us identify with being poor? No! It’s the ego that feels limited & small (financially, and otherwise).
When you feel spiritually abundant within yourself, you find richness in life. Creating prosperity in the form of money and wealth in the outside world.
Your being wants to expand and grow; it does so by having many life experiences. In this lifetime, money is a tool that allows you to fulfil your dreams and desires.
Does this mean that money makes everything perfect? Oh NO!
Does it mean that money is your main source of happiness? Absolutely not!
Money is simply a tool/resource that will help you have some of the life experiences (dreams, desires, goals, plans) you want to have.
Money is definitely not the answer to everything, but it’s not futile either. Financial resources give you the opportunity and possibility to have many life adventures. The growth and expansion that occurs as a result of these experiences is part of a spiritual life and attitude.
Money itself isn’t good or bad. It’s only paper – there is no consciousness. It’s neutral. It’s the value and meaning that we attach to money makes it good or bad. How we choose to use money that determines whether it feels “good” or “bad.”
How money is made or used can be positive or negative energetically – its either used in an ego-centric, selfish way or in a positive, loving way. It’s basically an extension of your energy, so the way you choose to use money is ultimately what determines the vibration it carries.
We need to remember that money itself is not good or bad; it’s merely a tool that we’re using in this lifetime. If you use money in a way that enhances your own life and lives of others, then a powerful, spiritual tool is exactly what money will be.
Over to You
” MONEY IS MERELY A MEANS TO A GREATER PURPOSE NOT PURPOSE ITSELF” ANONYMOUS
Since I have launched my 30 Day Sugar Free Sweet & Sexy for Spring Challenge (Join the challenge its FREE! www.ilovesugarfree.weebly.com), I have been thinking about the phrase “THE SWEET SPOT IN LIFE”
“The sweet spot is that place where your greatest strengths and your greatest personal power overlap with those arenas where you find ease, where there is little resistance or stress” Christine Carter
I’ve wrestled with the sweet spot for a long long time. What parts of life need to blend together to get to it? Do you know? When struggle sets in life I become stressed and sombre. I lose my mojo when I’m too tense or tired. I feel stuck and strained. I know that I can get great successes outside of my sweet spot, but my body and brain just freezes. What can I do?
Here are 3 ways we can flow into our sweet spot (easily and effortlessly):
Take Action: Pick one of the above ways to flow back to your sweet spot, and decide WHEN you will do it. Insert in your calendar or for all intentions & purposes your fire may dwindle. Where is your Sweet Spot in Life?
Does it mean a high paying job, living in a big house and driving an expensive car?
Perhaps owning your own home…?
Running a thriving business…?
Maybe successful is having a happy and healthy family life? For others success is being able to stay at home with their children, just getting along with a sibling/spouse/parent day after day.
Learning another language. Being able to coax an Orchid into re-blooming?
Or perhaps it is just as simple as being happy when you drinking a cold glass of water on a hot day … Success comes in many forms and has many meanings. What success are you seeking in your life right now?
In reality it was hardly that simple or great. There was a whole lot of commotion in my life that I was trying to resolve and juggle. Building my house, renovating my office, building my business, running a household, working at my marriage, worrying about parents & keeping up with friends. How was I doing it all? I was thriving. But people close to me didn’t think so.
It was mentioned (a few times) in passing by family members & friends: “You have too much on your plate. You’ll burnout be careful” I remember becoming very irritated and defensive once. I responded, “Don’t worry about me I really do take good care of myself. I can handle it.”
After all, I worked out 4 days a week. I ate healthy wholesome meals. I drank 2 litres of water daily. I had weekly lunches with my bestie. I scheduled massages when I was stressed or overwhelmed. And, on most nights I even slept a minimum of six hours. I took really good care of myself – so I thought! Hmmm….
On the inside: I buried vulnerability. I played the resilience card. I sought out quick-fixes. And I convinced myself I was okay. Unknowingly, I placed a label on emotions: “I’ll deal with it later. Not now please emotions.”:
Along the overachieving path of success and ambition, I disconnected from myself. I did not know how to take care of my inner world. One day I found myself sleeping hugging a pillow, with a deep wound and sadness. The ache made my stomach hurt and my head throb. I was not okay. I fell apart inside!
After a few intense days of deep seated pain, I was gifted with a new awareness. I paused. Made simple and easy changes in my daily routine to include internal nurturing and nourishing.
This is how I did it. Self-care is doing little things for yourself. Self-care is a lifestyle! Self-care is all about treating yourself with love & kindness.
Step 1 – Brainstorming
Set aside 10 minutes to brainstorm what would you like to do in your mini-retreats
I’d love to……. Just jot down as many as you like. No wrong or right. Don’t worry about time, money or when. Just enjoy the dreaming, exploring, discovering. e.g. sitting at a coffee shop reading, attending a yoga class, learning to dance, meditating, journaling, celebrating good things of the day, visit Paris, go skiing…
Step 2 – Organising
Select 3-5 activities on your list that you can implement easily and quickly. Minimal time, money or planning. I call them Simple Pleasures
Of course, it would be great to start incorporating ALL of the activities into your life but since you may already feel time restraints, we need to prioritise.
Select 1 activity that will create fireworks in your life. Make you feel good about yourself
Select a 2nd one that will have lasting impact throughout the day
Select a 3rd one that you can do right now.
Step 3 Planning
Pick 1 from step 2 which mini retreat would love to start this week. Grab your calendar and book these mini retreats for this week! Voila!
Drawing up impressive to do lists, having the right system, time management methodology, keeping detailed logs, eating your frog first, having an efficient structure – all this is correct and valid – but it does not make you more productive. There is one important thing that makes all the mentioned work more effective and fun: Liking what you do! Yes, liking what you do! By liking what you do, you can tackle the to do lists, etc., with more ease and resilience.
The single most efficient way to increase your productivity is get happy and be happy at work. No system, tool or methodology on earth can beat the productivity boost you get from really, really enjoying your work.
I’m not belittling all the productivity advice out there – it’s not that it’s faulty or ineffective. It’s just that when you apply it in a job that basically doesn’t make you happy, you’re trying to fix the symptoms when the problem goes much deeper.
1: Work better with others
– Better teamwork with your workmates
– Better employee relations if you’re a manager
– More satisfied & happy customers if you’re in a service-orientated job
– Improved sales
2: Are more creative
If your productivity depends on being able to come up with new ideas, you need to be happy at work. You think better when you are happy.
3: Resolve problems instead of complaining about them
When you don’t like your work, every molehill looks like a mountain. It becomes difficult to solve any problem without agonizing over it. When you’re happy at work and you run into a snag – you just deal with it!
4: Have more energy
Happy people have much more energy and are therefore more efficient at most things they do.
5: Are more optimistic
Happy people have a more positive, optimistic outlook in life, and as research shows, optimists and happy people are super successful and way more productive.
6: Are way more motivated & driven
Low motivation means low productivity & drive, and the only sustainable, reliable way to be motivated at work is to be happy and really like what you do.
7: Get less sick
Getting sick is a productivity killer. If you don’t like your job, you’re more prone to contract a long list of stress related diseases. More sick leave taken. You’re also more prone to workplace stress and burnout.
8: Learn quicker
When you’re happy and relaxed, you’re much more open to learning new things at work
9: Worry less about making mistakes
When you’re happy at work the occasional mistake doesn’t bother you much. You pick yourself up, learn from it and move on. When you happy your concentration is better therefore fewer mistakes.
10: Make better decisions
Happy people make better, more informed decisions. They are better able to prioritize their work under stressful situations
You wondering all this sounds great BUT how do you get happy at work? There are two ways, really:
2. Find a new job where you can be happy. If your current job is not changeable, don’t wait– move on! Again that is if you choose to do so.