Day 8 of 21 Day Challenge: DRAWING THE LINE
Welcome to Day 8 of the Challenge to build your self-love & boost your confidence! (facing your fears)
Your Challenge for TODAY:
Drawing the Line
Have you ever felt frozen when you needed to draw the line with someone?
Have you put yourself at a disadvantage when you failed to draw the line because you were at a loss?
Have you ever felt mistreated when someone drew a line to your disadvantage?
Have you ever felt angry and frustrated when you could not draw the line of how you were treated?
Did you feel cheated?
Did you feel like someone was taking something away from you?
Let’s see why you feel this way…..
Setting boundaries is one of the most important parts when engaging with life. We have relationships with life and the people in it. Some relationships are a few minutes while others are a lifetime. Agreeable boundaries key ingredient for most relationships to function well. The expression, “Good fences make good neighbors,” is true.
At the same time we all have had experience with poor boundaries, boundaries that are too loose or too strict, boundaries that are self-serving and boundaries that feel abusive.
3 Common Reasons We Fail to Establish and Enforce Personal Boundaries:
- Fear of what people will think and say when we tell them how we want to be treated
- Feeling unworthy of the treatment we desire and think we’re getting what we deserve
- A lack of role models who’ve shown us the benefits of personal boundaries
So what can we do about this?
Firstly let’s get to know boundaries.
Our boundaries define what we permit into our lives. Personal boundaries are essential if you want to protect, enhance and build your self-esteem. Having boundaries in place does not mean you are insolent or difficult, it simply means that you stand up for yourself and have means in place to manage you and your life.
Emotional Boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from emotions from others that cause problems in our lives. It’s taking care of yourself.
Physical boundaries not only help us to determine who may touch us and under what circumstances, but also include physical things we can put in place to stop interruptions and communicate to others:
– what we will take responsibility for (and what not),
– how we choose to spend our time and resources and
– what our priorities are.
Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions –and to express “what we think/believe”. Once we learn to “own” what we believe to be true – and allow others to have their own beliefs and opinions, our stress levels drop significantly and our lives become happier and lighter.
Mental boundaries also empower us to choose the type of information, ideas, opinions and images we internalize. We have the option to disengage from negative information, opinions and emotions of others – and to consciously choose what is comfortable for us. This choice allows us to fulfill our needs.
Spiritual boundaries help us be in congruent with our deepest values. Once we know for sure what we believe to be true for us, it becomes easier to live genuine life – and the result – more conviction and certainty
Challenge for Today:
Think deeply about what boundaries you can put in place to limit the number of distractions, unwanted interferences and negative influences in your life.
Know Yourself And Your Needs
This first step in setting boundaries is to make an appointment with yourself. Yes you important. Make yourself comfortable with a notebook so that you can brainstorm your ideas.
You need to create a map in your mind that enables you to confidently respond to boundary conflicts.
Empowering questions to help you:
1. What are my most important values?
2. What are my most important priorities?
3. What is non-negotiable for me?
4. What can I be somewhat flexible about?
5.What can I always be flexible about?
6.How do I typically handle trade-offs?
When thinking about setting boundaries and making compromises, you are considering the totality of your values, your limits in terms of time and energy and your desire and ability to sacrifice.
I believe that the key to setting boundaries lies in being in a constructive frame of mind. When the people around you know that you see the good in them, they will be in a positive frame of mind when working with you.
It also helps to have a sense of humor and to be creative.
Just making the effort to work on boundaries is something for you to feel proud of.
You are creating a better world with each positive step.
Excellent to build our self-love and great way to boost our confidence.
Remember, you and you alone are responsible for your own well-being, self-love and happiness.
Is it time to draw the line on someone or something in your life?
Believe: DRAWING THE LINE IS IMPORTANT FOR ME
Sending you encouragement and support
So much love
Your Happiness & Confidence Coach 🙂
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