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Stop Suppressing Your Emotions

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 December 8, 2019

You are a grown woman! Right?

You know how to manage your emotions! Wow that is great!

When you feel anger, sadness, disappointment, rejected, jealous, panicky anxious, and so on, what do you do? You run away from these emotions because they are uncomfortable. You dislike the pain its causes and you suppress your emotions.

After all, that is what you’ve have been taught since childhood

Stop crying. Shut up. Don’t talk. Stop Whining. Go to your room.

Over the years, you hold back your tears, shut your mouth and feelings. There is just no room to express these feelings. So, you spend your entire life in a self-made jail.

This is how you learned to suppress your emotions and thoughts.

Suppressing your emotions is not the best way to manage your emotions. In fact, it can hurt you the following ways:

  1. Living on the side-lines
  2. Lack of desire to do fun things or new things
  3. Lack of commitment in general
  4. Start things don’t finish anything
  5. Disruptive sleeping patterns
  6. Mental anxiety and fatigue
  7. Binge on comfort food
  8. Digestive problems
  9. Lack of focus
  10. Self-doubt and uncertainty
  11. Low self-worth
  12. Lack of healthy personal boundaries
  13. Feeling of unhappiness
  14. Disconnected from Self
  15. Relationship difficulties

Hey there, don’t be glum!

Here are 3 ways that you can learn to express your feelings and thoughts:

  1. Express all your feelings in a journal. Free form. No rules on how you should write or in what order. No editing or judgement. This can be done as a daily practice or ritual before bed or in the morning.
  2. Find an activity to let of steam when feeling angry or upset. Attend a kick-boxing class or Zumba class.
  3. You are human and it’s okay to have these negative feelings. You are not a bad person for having these feelings and thoughts. Go for therapy or hire a life coach make sense of these emotions and thoughts. Get curious and explore & discover way these emotions can serve in your life.

You Human

It’s time you stop suppressing your emotions & thoughts as you always have.

You are human and you will feel full range of emotions. Got That!

There is a difference between suppressing and managing your emotions. Suppressing emotions leads to a mediocre & dull life. Managing emotions leads to an empowered and exciting life.

Stop boxing yourself in a cage.  

Break free and allow yourself to feel/think and express.

 

11 Girl Boss Ignite Your Spirit Must Read Books

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 22, 2018
GIRLBOSS MUST READ BOOKS

Books! Books! Books! I love books

Holding a book, smelling its woody pages, sucking up the cover art and reading the personalised preface and acknowledgments. Wow! It invokes the imagination. It tantalises the senses and teases the brain.

Every word telling a story, transporting you to different realms and dimensions. Its invigorates the soul and spirit with every turn and twist of the words building into a story. Some words silently while others loudly blatantly thrilling, exciting, teasing as it reaches the depth of our beings.

I love romantic, psychological thrillers and obsessed with self-development books. I am a sucker for motivational types and all things that help me expand. I love to marinate in inspiration through books, specifically breakdown internal barriers, help instil vision and clarity and ignite your spirit type books.

If you’re a book type gal, I invite you to be inquisitive about them below. While I haven’t read all of them yet, I personally own all of them, and am steadily making my way through the stack. Each book was purchased either through a podcast, a blog post or a friend’s suggestion – I’m finding that the combined message between them all is, so you can get out there in the world and do what matters to you in ways that work for you.

The authors are helping readers learn to live it through vulnerability, creativity, heart, accountability and community.

So without further ado, below are 11 Inspirational, Girl Boss, Ignite Your Soul, Must-Read Books:

  1. Big Magic                                by Elizabeth Gilbert
  2. Playing Big                              by Tara Mohr
  3. Rising Strong                         by Brene Brown
  4. Leave Your Mark                   by Aliza Light
  5. The Universe has your Back   by Gabrielle Bernstein
  6. The Desire Map                      by Danielle LePort
  7. #Girlboss                                 by Sophia Amenise
  8. Make it Happen                      by Lara Casey
  9. You are a Badass                    by Jen Sincero
  10. Good to Great                         by Jim Collins
  11. The Confidence Code            by Kathy Kay & Claire Shipman

Alright girl bosses, are you feeling motivated and exhilarated?

You sure must be, because just writing this makes me want to read nonstop. Become a ferocious reader! Such Fun!

I hope you gathered some great inspiration here, possibly intrigued by a book or two. And are now starting on the incredible journey of creation, confidence, greatness, vulnerability, recognizing your self-worth, helping to create a vision for braver living, loving, and leading.

After Valentines Day

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 15, 2018
after valentines day

After Valentines day, were you one of the many incredible and amazing people that had an awful Valentine’s day. I can feel your pain and hurt. Did you dread the day and felt like it was the longest day that would just not end?

Are you feeling not good enough because you did not get flowers, chocolates or gift? No one declared their undying love for you! Do you feel like there is something wrong with you? That is BS. Biggest lie that we tell ourselves. These are all the negative thoughts and feelings we have about ourselves. I have made it my passion to replace: I am not good enough with positive thoughts and vibes.

One way of doing this is using positive affirmations. If you want to up your feel-good factor and confidence I suggest adding positive affirmations to your daily routine. They must be personal, feel sacred and special for you.

I have included my top 10 positive affirmations below as encouragement to create a powerful sentence that inspires you.

  • I love and accept myself just the way I am today
  • I am powerful now. I can achieve anything I put my mind to.
  • I accept and approve of my body
  • I am intelligent, capable and competent
  • I believe in myself and free to be me
  • I trust myself to make good choices in life
  • I allow and give myself permission to receive good things in my life
  • I am completely open to new experiences in life.
  • I am loving lovable and loved
  • I am worthy of love, joy and abundance

How to use your affirmation:

  1. Sit in a quiet place comfortably
  2. Take a deep breath in for a count of 4.
  3. Hold the breath for a count of 4.
  4. Slowly exhale for a count of 6 as you say the affirmation in your mind.
  5. Repeat this process 3 times to invite each affirmation to resonate and vibrate into your mind and body.

Observe your thoughts and feelings during the exercise. Any time you notice a negative thought pattern or feeling, repeat your affirmation. At the end of your session, repeat the breathing exercise you started with. Just breath 3 times – no affirmations. This will help internalise and reinforce your affirmations.

This entire process is to build confidence that your thoughts, feelings and your actions are in alignment.

Reflections…

Reality of life:  People will come and go.  Events will come and go.  Day and night will come and go.  But deep unconditional love for yourself will always remain with you, if you nurture and nourish it. Make it one of your most important priority in life.

Over to YOU…

How are positive affirmations working for you? Do you use affirmations in your life?

Let us know in the comment section

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

10 Ways to Relax after Work

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 January 20, 2018
10 ways to relax

Relaxing after work is one of my goal for 2018

We into the 3rd week of Jan 2018. I don’t know about you guys, but before the exhaustion of the commute and work pressure get you down. Here are some ideas how to unwind after work.

In 2017, I used to just bite the bullet. Convince myself that this is just life and that I had to keep going no matter what.

But over the holidays, I realized that if I want to be top my game, I need to make my overall well-being a priority. I need to make time to unwind when I get home, time to relax and de-stress.

Life was so much simpler when we were kids. But we were in a hurry to be adults. We thought adulting would be fun and free.

Adulting has been a lot harder. Relaxing is just not on the cards.  I’d get home and think about all the zillion things I wanted or needed to do, so taking a breather wasn’t on the cards. So, if that sounds like your life and you need some help in the de-stressing department, here are

10 easy ways to relax after a long day at work:

Listen to Relaxing Music

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Change into Comfy Clothes

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Enjoy A Glass of Wine 

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Unplug for 2-3 Hours

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Light Up Some Soy Candles

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Use Essential or Aroma Therapy Oils

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Take a Bubble Bath

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Meditate/Do Yoga

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Read A Book

Read a Book

Get Crafty

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My favourite way to relax is listening to soothing music in my comfy cloths sipping tantalising red wine.

How do you unwind after a long day? Let us know in the comment section

We Breaking Up with Sugar

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 November 14, 2017
breaking up with sugar

I am BREAKING UP WITH SUGAR on this World Diabetes Day

breaking up with sugar

 

IT’S BEEN A GREAT LOVE AFFAIR.

Sugar has comforted me, consoled me, made me happy, celebrated life with me, boost me up when I was down. YES! I am still breaking with sugar! from a distance oh wow it’s the best relationship you could have, BUT EVERYTHING IS NOT ALL SWEET & SEXY ABOUT SUGAR. We were told sugar is harmless (I know and we believed it) My Dear Friends It’s a BIG FAT LIE! It causes weight gain, inflammation, exhaustion, etc. Oh, dear so many unhealthy things. It’s scary.

Let Break-Up with Sugar to feel great about ourselves. We don’t need to sugar to love ourselves. We don’t need sugar to celebrate life, we don’t need sugar to boost our energy. We don’t need sugar to make us happy.  I am doing this for ME. I am choosing health. I am committed to my health. What are you going to do for yourself?

The great love affair is over.

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I can make myself happy. I celebrate life in a new way. I have great friends, a new way of living and to keep myself motivated I am listing the reasons I am breaking up with sugar:

1.             CAUSES WEIGHT GAIN
2.              MAKES YOU HUNGRY
3.              LOWERS IMMUNITY
4.              MOOD IMBALANCES
5.              LOW ENERGY/FATIGUE
6.              INFLAMMATION
7.              DIGESTION ISSUES
8.              TOOTH DECAY AND CAVITIES
9.              DIABETES COMPLICATIONS
10.           HEART DISEASE/STROKE/METABOLIC SYNDROME
11.           CANCER
12.           KIDNEY DISEASE
13.           FATTY LIVER
14.           OSTEOPOROSIS
15.           HORMONE ISSUES
16.           ACCELERATED AGING

17.                  BRAIN FOG
18                   POOR MEMORY
19                   SLEEP ISSUES

 

If this does not convince you? What will?

So, Are you breaking up with Sugar?

Get Your Groove on with Happy Songs

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 August 2, 2017
Happy songs

Get Your Groove On with Happy Songs

Dance your blues away with Happy songs.

Happy Songs are an easy way to bring happiness into your life. Its universal, it can have an immediate effect  make you feel better quickly. Do you remember when you were a teenager, music was such a wonderful thing. You would close your door and dance so that no one can watch you. You felt so free and it was such an amazing way to just let go of all your worries and stress. Would you like to have the same feeling of coming alive? Feel happy? Have that ridiculous but cute smile on your face? Do you remember your favourite happy songs? The songs that awaken great memories. Make you feel alive. Make you feel light and energetic. Invoke Happy chemicals in the body and brain. Stir up joy and laughter within.

I dare you: Let your happy song flow  from your heart.

Here is my Happy Songs playlist. These songs uplift my mood, brings a smile to my face and my body comes alive.

 

Do you have Happy Songs? List them in the comment section.

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLGLof3IaV-VrANKisjJ8vJxgL3g38QTyA

5 Ways to Colour Your Life with Happiness

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 March 12, 2017
colour your life with happiness

Colour Your Life with Happiness.

Soon it will be the festival of colour or Happy Holi, celebrated by Hindus all over the world.

This year it’s on 21 March 2019

 

In the Southern hemisphere, we are in full force summer. Abundance of colour all around us. Caressing the eyes, soothing the senses, igniting our lives with passion and excitement. The vivid hues tantalising our taste and thirst for a vibrant life. Dazzling our dreams with pulsating energy. At times calming our minds and warming our hearts. A gentle glow glimmer of hope.

I love infusing colour in my life to create Happiness, Hope and Harmony. Every morning when I awake I ponder my day and select the colour that is needed for the day. Some days are filled with positive events and activities that are full of bright colours. Other days are filled with challenges that are dark and sombre. I love to use the rainbow of colours to start the day. It’s fun and easy way to create positivity and richness in your life. Colours invoke our emotions – either positively or negatively. Let’s see how we can use colours to impact our lives and happiness. (Scientist say colours can influence your mood)

 5 Ways to colour your life with Happiness

  1.  Add a pot plant or buy flowers to brighten up and happy up your surroundings.
  2. Wear colourful cloths and if colour is not your thing wear happy socks
  3. Use colourful dinner set or breakfast utensils. Colourful mugs for your tea or coffee. Drink water in a blue glass
  4. Try a new colour nail polish or lipstick
  5. Eat colourful foods

colour yur life happy

The effects of 9 basic colours on your happiness: –

  1. Red is a vibrant colour that invokes passion, power, romance, drama, bravery
  2. Orange is a warm colour that conveys friendliness, fun, energy, creativity, innovation
  3. Yellow is a sunny colour that incites positivity, happiness, softness, hospitality, upliftment
  4. Green is a soothing colour that encourages growth, relaxation, renewal, safety, gentleness
  5. Blue is a versatile colour that delivers tranquillity, reflectiveness, dependability, intelligence, strength
  6. Purple is an enigmatic colour that arouses eccentricity, sophistication, excitement, calmness, luxury
  7. Brown is an organic colour that evokes earthiness, resilience, comfort, warmth, familiarity
  8. Black is a mysterious colour that invokes confidence, authority, seriousness, stability, safety
  9. White is a cool colour that conveys timelessness, purity, neutrality, cleanliness, freshness

The above colours incites these blissful emotions into my life.

Colours invoke pure pleasure and happiness. Infusing hope for something possible. There are many colours that might make you happy but the colours that I find to simply bring the greatest amount of happiness, hope and harmony into my life are red, black and orange.

How do you colour your life with happiness?

Book a FREE coaching call on how we can help you Colour Your Life with Happiness.

Let us show you how to infuse some brightness or calmness into your life.

What do you need?

 

 

Fears, Failures and Fat

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 28, 2017
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Fears, Failures and Fat

Oh darling! These words feel so cosy and comfortable. They may have been your friend or foe for a long time. Depends your relationship with them.

We LIVING in the world of FLAWS = FEAR + FAILURES + FAT

This world of flaws may seem big but in fact you have been living very small.

In the world of Flaws, it can be debilitating and limiting. Its creates stories that keep you back in life and not allow you to try new things or engage with new people. The inner voice of fears, failures and fat is very tricky and naughty. Conjuring up stories to convince you that you are broken and need to be fixed. A few of the stories that live in the world of Flaws are:

I am so fat

I am ugly

I am not pretty

I am such a failure and looser

I earn little money

I have such a small house

My thighs are so fat.

I am boring

I am so weak

I am not educated enough

I am not smart enough

I am plain Jane

I hate myself for not being able to say no

I haven’t handled that situation very well.

People don’t like me…..

Do some of the stories in the world of Flaws seem as your own?

All our “flaws” are based on our own interpretations and perspectives. We fixate about certain aspects of our body, our appearance, our personality, our life, our work and consider them as “flawed.”

We all experience a sense of feeling flawed in certain aspects of our lives and at times in life. It’s a natural human condition. There is absolutely nothing wrong feeling this way. We all want to feel whole and have a sense of belonging. But, feeling flawed can rob us of our energy, our passion, our happiness, our confidence, and living our life. It’s one of the most painful ways to live and can result in a very dissatisfied life.

So, you see living in the world of Flaws is not so wonderful!!!

I would love to live in a world of Flawsome.

Ok I know it sounds weird.

In the world of Flawsome we are flawed and fabulous at the same time. And it’s a great place to be. Now you must be curious how can one be flawed and fab at once. Well you can …

3 steps to live in the world of Flawsome (fears, Failures, fat, fabulous)

Step 1  Lets get real about your flaws

Acknowledge the limitations, weaknesses, faults, failings, inadequacies, imperfections, shortcomings. We just bringing them to light without judgement. We are not running away or avoiding them anymore. There is a personal power and freedom in acknowledging them.

Step 2 Feeling the Flaws

Express your underlying feelings for your perceived flaws. Is it fear or shame? Do you feel angry about something at work or with your career? Sad about people treating you badly? All these feelings create a sense discomfort, pain and unease. In these situations, we tend to suppress our emotions. The memory of the painful situation gets bottled up. By giving these feelings a voice you can unhook and unlock from the memory of the situation.

Step 3 Love being Flawsome

View your flaws with kindness and compassion. Love your flaws – this creates a safe space to accept our flaws and give us the courage to change our mindset about them. It allows healing and creates place for new possibilities, new stories to be told.

A world in which we can adore our flaws and fab side by side. Where the light and dark co-exist. Where we can love our fears, failures & fat. Being whole. Exploring, Discovering, Becoming. Where there is a possibility of living, large and light.

This is the world of Flawsome.

 Would you like to live there?

How to Love Yourself?

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 7, 2017
loving yourself

Do you love yourself?

Do you know that you’re very special and unique? There is no other person like you. You deserve to be loved by the most important person in your life — YOU. We celebrating the month of love starting with YOU. (YOU MATTER YOU SMART YOU KIND YOU POWER YOU  ♥ HEART)

Practicing self-love can be tough for many of us, especially during trying times. It’s not about being self-absorbed or self-centred, it’s about getting in touch with ourselves, our well-being and our joy. We practice self-love so we can break through our limiting beliefs and create & live a life that we truly love.

Below are 21 ways to love yourself: –

  1. Start being honest with yourself about everything going on in your life.
  2. Accept where are right now in your life – without judgement
  3. Connect with your inner self and higher self
  4. Face your inner resistance, barriers and fears
  5. Be kind, compassionate towards yourself
  6. Forgive yourself and others
  7. Make peace with your past
  8. Start enjoying the things and relationships you already have
  9. Start dreaming and doing
  10. Start creating your own happiness
  11. Build and nurture relationships where you feel appreciated and loved. Where you feel safe to be open and vulnerable
  12. Become the love you seek from other people
  13. Pay attention to your stress/worry/tension/anxiety levels and find ways to manage the stress/worry/tension/anxiety.
  14. Be yourself, genuinely and proudly
  15. Nurture and nourish your body
  16. Take care of your time, your space and your finances.
  17. Laugh more in life
  18. Find work and activities you love and that adds joy and meaning
  19. Believe in your abilities
  20. Find the positive during challenging times
  21. Flaunt your Flawsomeness!

Reflections….

Reality of life:  People will come and go.  Events will come and go.  Day and night will come and go.  But deep unconditional love for yourself will always remain with you, if you nurture and nourish it.

“Put these things on your TO-DO list today:

  1. Spend time doing things that help you love yourself more.

  2. Spend time thinking about things that help you love yourself more.

  3. Spend time with people who help you love yourself more.”

Over to YOU…

Which of these points do you struggle with?

How will you love yourself today?

Top 7 Money Mistakes of Women

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 October 23, 2016
money mistakes

Top 7 Money Mistakes of Women

For many women money is a highly sensitive issue. Something uncomfortable and awkward. It is still a taboo subject in this day and age. It’s mind-blogging! Lifestyles have changed and roles of women in the family unit have evolved. Many are single breadwinners. Yet we women are still enticed by the romantic notion of Cinderella.

I am very surprised how many women (mostly independent, employed, sophisticated women, some of them self-identified feminists, some of them professionals, some of them new age feminine thinkers) have the fantasy that some man is going to rescue them financially.

A very dear friend (Sam) was involved with a very wealthy man. I was extremely surprised, when they broke up, at the reaction of our friends. Sam broke up with him. Our friends, who were all independent, employed, sophisticated women, were not particularly supportive. They were all kind of like, “He treats you so well, he’s so rich and he is so nice. What are you doing? Why you leaving him?” You can smell the fear…

It was just amazing to see these very successful, independent and educated women kind of reduced to women out of a Jane Austen novel. Scary!

In my women tribe we talk and write about divorce, sagging boobs and sex, but we don’t really talk about money in a way that is as profound or exploratory. I raise the topic at times but it falls to deaf ears. Why are so many women reluctant to talk openly about the role money plays in their lives and relationships?

Here are the top 7 Money Mistakes of Women:

  1. Money is intricately woven in our self-worth & self-esteem.
  2. Think they don’t know much about investing their money.
  3. Financial compatibility and value is not considered in long term relationships.
  4. Let someone else – a spouse, a parent, a partner, an advisor – take care of everything for us.
  5. Put others’ needs ahead of our own
  6. Do not ask or plan for what we need financially – present and future
  7. Are too embarrassed to talk with our family or friends about money.

What money mistakes are you making as a woman?

I think its time to take your money power back NOW!. Why you need to take control now.

The good news: More women are now the family breadwinner (look at that!). The bad news: We still tend to pass the buck on important money matters, such as investing and retirement.

No need to be scared. There is so much information and knowledge out there to guide you and find solutions to suit your money personality. So be bold & brave take your money power back.

Ready to take charge of your financial future?

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