Archive for Low self-esteem

Stop Suppressing Your Emotions

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 December 8, 2019

You are a grown woman! Right?

You know how to manage your emotions! Wow that is great!

When you feel anger, sadness, disappointment, rejected, jealous, panicky anxious, and so on, what do you do? You run away from these emotions because they are uncomfortable. You dislike the pain its causes and you suppress your emotions.

After all, that is what you’ve have been taught since childhood

Stop crying. Shut up. Don’t talk. Stop Whining. Go to your room.

Over the years, you hold back your tears, shut your mouth and feelings. There is just no room to express these feelings. So, you spend your entire life in a self-made jail.

This is how you learned to suppress your emotions and thoughts.

Suppressing your emotions is not the best way to manage your emotions. In fact, it can hurt you the following ways:

  1. Living on the side-lines
  2. Lack of desire to do fun things or new things
  3. Lack of commitment in general
  4. Start things don’t finish anything
  5. Disruptive sleeping patterns
  6. Mental anxiety and fatigue
  7. Binge on comfort food
  8. Digestive problems
  9. Lack of focus
  10. Self-doubt and uncertainty
  11. Low self-worth
  12. Lack of healthy personal boundaries
  13. Feeling of unhappiness
  14. Disconnected from Self
  15. Relationship difficulties

Hey there, don’t be glum!

Here are 3 ways that you can learn to express your feelings and thoughts:

  1. Express all your feelings in a journal. Free form. No rules on how you should write or in what order. No editing or judgement. This can be done as a daily practice or ritual before bed or in the morning.
  2. Find an activity to let of steam when feeling angry or upset. Attend a kick-boxing class or Zumba class.
  3. You are human and it’s okay to have these negative feelings. You are not a bad person for having these feelings and thoughts. Go for therapy or hire a life coach make sense of these emotions and thoughts. Get curious and explore & discover way these emotions can serve in your life.

You Human

It’s time you stop suppressing your emotions & thoughts as you always have.

You are human and you will feel full range of emotions. Got That!

There is a difference between suppressing and managing your emotions. Suppressing emotions leads to a mediocre & dull life. Managing emotions leads to an empowered and exciting life.

Stop boxing yourself in a cage.  

Break free and allow yourself to feel/think and express.

 

Your Sensitivity is Your Strength

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 16, 2019
Sensitvity

Sensitivity in our modern world is an uncomfortable thing. Its denial borders on amusing.

Yet in the depths of human needs, we all crave for sensitivity and care. Without it we would be lost.

Like you, I have struggled with sensitivity all my life. I still get baffled how to fit sensitivity into my world. Life gets complicated at times when navigating through life. I was influenced by a culture where sensitivity is defined as a weakness and showing emotion as a social embarrassment. I married into this as well. Culturally where it’s inappropriate to experience or express sensitivity. This is all that I knew at the time.

I also stayed in the corporate world just so that I had some form of identity and recognition. A false sense of power and strength. But it was cold place for me to be. My sensitivity screamed at me every day. Its not who you are! My soul whispered let go.

This reminds me: many years ago, a homeopath looked at me and told me to leave the corporate world. “It’s just too harsh for your soul, darling.” A sweet wise old lady. I never took her seriously. I was too busy being a corporate person. I got lost in this world. In a world of “suck it up, get over yourself, toughen up or stop being too sensitive” were the norm. My sensitivity never gave up on me. I began my journey on discovering what being sensitive meant to me.

Sensitivity is My Strength

It’s all about embracing and accepting my deep feelings. Not fighting them! All my life I repressed or avoided my feelings. Avoided the world/life, uncomfortable situations or people. It was a journey of empowering myself every time I get sensitive about a situation or person. I ask myself – what was my contribution to this event? Whose drama is this? Does it add value to my life?

This way I was not denying or repressing my emotions. I was empowering myself. Instead of getting angry or feeling guilty or stupid I found a peaceful response to my emotions. But there was still something off-balance inside me. I did not know how to take care of me. Love and nourish me. I always believed that it was the other persons job to love me and take care of me. To my astonishment it was not going be.

I slowly started on the journey of self-love and nourishment. (Louise Hay my sensitivity saviour). I found the simple truths of trust and faith. I found my port of safety and security. Where I can anchor my sensitivity. This I found in meditation and laughter yoga. Discovering an inner calmness! An inner strength!

Navigating the World

Navigating the world as a highly sensitive person (HSP) can be very traumatic. This can leave you feeling not so good about yourself. Not worthy of many things in life. Sometimes we are not aware of this behaviour. We build barriers to protect ourselves from this harsh reality of the world we travel.

To find my sense of self and remove the layers of trauma, I left my corporate job and started doing laughter yoga workshops. Taking one risk at a time. Starting with small groups of workshops. I started to feel a sense of belonging a sense of self. I got curious about being me in this world. Hey, I oscillate between being seen and hiding. Part of me is still afraid of being labelled or boxed into some cliché.

The good news is that a HSP can remove the layers of pain and hurt. Be surprised what you can discover about yourself. The journey is not an easy one. The tagline “You are worth it” comes to mind.

Also, this digital age desperately needs sensitive people. HSP people have the gift of connecting, caring and empathising.

I encourage you to show up as your sensitive self. Its your strength.

7 Steps to Deal with Doubt

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 March 23, 2018
Deal with Doubt

Life is ever changing and full of uncertainties and doubt. No matter the level of change, uncertainty is simply a part of life. Learning to embrace uncertainty is the key dealing with doubt. When we can’t embrace change and uncertainty is usually leads to feelings of doubt & disappointment . This can make life very difficult.

Doubt sabotages your chances for a happy and fulfilling life.

Doubt includes being self-critical, worrying, lack of trust & conviction, suspicious, indecisiveness, confusion and uncertainty. Most people suffer in silence. Its suffocates your confidence and undermines your abilities in life.

Yes! you can manage self-doubt but it’s a tough road and requires lots of effort. The benefits are far outweighing the effort you need to put in. You will boost your confidence on this journey and raise your self-esteem at the same time. It will be a worthy road trip. Trust me. I am speaking from personal experience with second guessing myself.

 7 Steps to Deal with Doubt

  1. Do one thing at a time. No multitasking
  2. Set smaller goals that you can manage
  3. Surround yourself with supporting & encouraging people
  4. Question your incertitude if its valid or not
  5. Everytime you make excuses or tell stories to avoid acting, write down all the possibilities if you did not have doubt
  6. Get a mentor to hold you accountable for your goals and actions
  7. Write down all your past successes and start believing in yourself

Learn to embrace uncertainty and doubt

You will never be able to control everything in life, as life is full of uncertainties. However, you can always keep yourself prepared to face such uncertainties, obstacles or challenges by planning well, taking quick actions, being flexible, and being patient. Once you start embracing unknown and focusing on the possibilities along with the challenges, you will certainly be become a successful and confident woman who is able to leap any barrier and have a full, rewarding life and career.

Your turn…

How do you deal with being unsure ?  What’s the next smallest step you need to take to turn uncertainty into certainty?

Leave a comment below and share your thoughts with us.  We would love to hear from YOU.

11 Girl Boss Ignite Your Spirit Must Read Books

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 22, 2018
GIRLBOSS MUST READ BOOKS

Books! Books! Books! I love books

Holding a book, smelling its woody pages, sucking up the cover art and reading the personalised preface and acknowledgments. Wow! It invokes the imagination. It tantalises the senses and teases the brain.

Every word telling a story, transporting you to different realms and dimensions. Its invigorates the soul and spirit with every turn and twist of the words building into a story. Some words silently while others loudly blatantly thrilling, exciting, teasing as it reaches the depth of our beings.

I love romantic, psychological thrillers and obsessed with self-development books. I am a sucker for motivational types and all things that help me expand. I love to marinate in inspiration through books, specifically breakdown internal barriers, help instil vision and clarity and ignite your spirit type books.

If you’re a book type gal, I invite you to be inquisitive about them below. While I haven’t read all of them yet, I personally own all of them, and am steadily making my way through the stack. Each book was purchased either through a podcast, a blog post or a friend’s suggestion – I’m finding that the combined message between them all is, so you can get out there in the world and do what matters to you in ways that work for you.

The authors are helping readers learn to live it through vulnerability, creativity, heart, accountability and community.

So without further ado, below are 11 Inspirational, Girl Boss, Ignite Your Soul, Must-Read Books:

  1. Big Magic                                by Elizabeth Gilbert
  2. Playing Big                              by Tara Mohr
  3. Rising Strong                         by Brene Brown
  4. Leave Your Mark                   by Aliza Light
  5. The Universe has your Back   by Gabrielle Bernstein
  6. The Desire Map                      by Danielle LePort
  7. #Girlboss                                 by Sophia Amenise
  8. Make it Happen                      by Lara Casey
  9. You are a Badass                    by Jen Sincero
  10. Good to Great                         by Jim Collins
  11. The Confidence Code            by Kathy Kay & Claire Shipman

Alright girl bosses, are you feeling motivated and exhilarated?

You sure must be, because just writing this makes me want to read nonstop. Become a ferocious reader! Such Fun!

I hope you gathered some great inspiration here, possibly intrigued by a book or two. And are now starting on the incredible journey of creation, confidence, greatness, vulnerability, recognizing your self-worth, helping to create a vision for braver living, loving, and leading.

How to Cope with Valentines Day?

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 13, 2018
valentines-day

Valentines day! Day of hearts, chocolates and flowers.

But its not all rosy for many people. It’s a traumatic and sad for many. The expectation set out by commercial establishments had people waiting in anticipation. Only to have their hearts broken. I was one of the people who fell for the glamour/illusion of Valentine’s day. My heart was ripped to pieces. Have you had a similar experience? Well let me tell you.

Do you know that you’re very special and unique? There is no other person like you. You deserve to be loved by the most important person in your life — YOU. We are celebrating the month of love starting with YOU.

(YOU MATTER YOU SMART YOU KIND YOU POWERFUL YOU ♥ HEART)

Practicing self-love can be tough for many of us, especially when it Valentines. There is so much emphasis on romantic love. It can be extremely lonely. The void and the emptiness are amplified. Your self-worth gets a knock and you feel so rejected by life.

Does that seem or sound like you? We are focusing on YOU and loving you. It’s not about being self-absorbed or self-centred, it’s about getting in touch with ourselves, our well-being and our joy. We practice self-love, so we can break through our limiting beliefs. When you love yourself so deeply and unconditionally, magic happens. The loneliness and low self-worth disappears. You get so comfortable in your own skin that you do not need love and approval from outside. You may be wondering where to begin.

Below are 21 ways to love yourself: –loving yourself

 

 

 

  1. Start being honest with yourself about everything going on in your life.
  2. Accept where are right now in your life – without judgement
  3. Connect with your inner self and higher self
  4. Face your inner resistance, barriers and fears
  5. Be kind, compassionate towards yourself
  6. Forgive yourself and others
  7. Make peace with your past
  8. Start enjoying the things and relationships you already have
  9. Start dreaming and doing
  10. Start creating your own happiness – on your terms
  11. Build and nurture relationships where you feel appreciated and loved. Where you feel safe to be open and vulnerable
  12. Become the love you seek from other people
  13. Pay attention to your stress/worry/tension/anxiety levels and find ways to manage the stress/worry/tension/anxiety.
  14. Be yourself, genuinely and proudly
  15. Nurture and nourish your body
  16. Take care of your time, your space and your finances.
  17. Laugh more in life
  18. Find work and activities you love and that adds joy and meaning
  19. Believe in your abilities
  20. Find the positive during challenging times
  21. Flaunt your Flawsomeness!

Reflections….

Reality of life:  People will come and go.  Events will come and go.  Day and night will come and go.  But deep unconditional love for yourself will always remain with you, if you nurture and nourish it.

“Put these things on your TO-DO list today:

  1. Spend time doing things that help you love yourself more.
  2. Spend time with people who help you love yourself more.”

Over to YOU…

Are you ready to start loving yourself deeply and unconditionally?

Dealing with Disappointment

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 November 15, 2017
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Dealing with Disappointment

When last did you feel disappointment?

We experience Disappointment every day. It could be any incident in your life.

Maybe:

Your boss yelled at you for your monthly report, your friend did not pitch up for lunch, your mum did not like the gift, your hubby disliked your delicious meal you so excitedly prepared, you were overlooked for the promotion, the date was horrible, your business failed, your friend betrayed your confidence, your gained weight after all the healthy eating, your boyfriend had to work late on your birthday, and many more…

Disappointment makes you feel sad when things do not work-out as you expected. Some feel numb while others feel rejected. The bigger disappointments can hurt and wound deeply. It all depends how to deal with disappointments. It can affect your self-worth. But maybe not! Hmmm…

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Disappointment can be good for you. YES that’s correct! I tell you why:

  1. Its means you care deeply and are passionate about something. It’s a beautiful thing. These very emotions that drives you to do something. It motivates you to bring your dreams alive. An indication that you are in touch with your feelings
  2. Let-downs makes you resilient and stronger. I know you have read this so many times and it borders on cliché. But next time you will deal with disappointments in a better way and bounce back quicker because you understand the harsh feelings.
  3. Flops and failures create opportunities to grow (oops another cliché). Disappointments are caused by your expectations. Your expectations are based on your own set of assumptions. Now you have a great opportunity to revisit your assumption about the situation, self-belief and mind-set.  You can get your assumptions more aligned to the world. Finding new ways to achieve your desires. Gaining knowledge about yourself and your interaction with the world. Becoming a little wiser.

Your turn…

How do you deal with disappointment?  What’s the next smallest step you need to take to turn let-downs into opportunities?

Leave a comment below and share your thoughts with us.  We would love to hear from YOU.

 

 

7 Ways to Rock Your Curves

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 June 13, 2017
Rock your curves

My blog is mainly focused on being happy and living happy. But things are changing… I want to take a moment to reflect on something that’s important to me and has become part of my core message and belief:

 Rock Your Curves. Body Confidence

My big vision is to change the outlook on curvy bodies. I would like girls with curves to wear clothes that someone with their body type typically doesn’t, with confidence.

My mission is to impact women lives by inspiring women to feel comfortable in their own skin. Aspire to be their true powerful self.

I get so many compliments and enquiries on how I achieved confidence, and how I stay body positive, in a world where we’re made to feel as if we don’t deserve to be stylish and beautiful, due to our size. In a world where our size is viewed so negatively

I started thinking about Rocking your Curves (body confidence), and how to define it.

I started to reflect on ways I’ve built my own body confidence through the years. Considering my own personal struggle to accept my natural curves most of my life. Battle with emotional eating, excessive exercise, cycle of weight loss and weight gain, I thought it was time to share my personal style of rocking my curves.

Here are my top 7 ways to Rock Your Curves (body confidence tips):

  1. Mirror Mirror on the Wall…

Many women, like yourself, who are uncomfortable with their bodies, avoid looking at themself in the mirror, especially in the nude. There is highly possibility seeing yourself in the nude can change your perception of your body, radically! We mean the positive way.

Let’s try an experiment and see what happens. Do your hair and makeup in the nude and then look at yourself in the mirror. Do this maybe twice a week for 3 weeks. Trust me, it will start to change the way you see and look at your body.  This will help you become more comfortable facing yourself in the mirror. This way to will get used to seeing your reflection without any judgements

2. Telling yourself good things…

Yes, I talk to myself all the time. No, I am not a crazy person- I know you talk to yourself too!

We tend to focus on what we don’t like about ourselves. We judge ourselves to the point where we dislike sometimes hate our bodies. But instead of critical thoughts, focus on what you like about yourself, having positive thoughts about your body and looks.

Tell yourself how proud you are that your body can do. Maybe you’re a new mom and although there are things about your post-baby body you’re still trying to deal with, be proud that your body carried a new life. You gave birth to an amazing little person.

Maybe you dislike showing your arms, but you’re a brilliant baker, so you should be thankful for those strong arms that can whip up a delicious dessert like nobody’s business!  By now I’m sure you’ve gotten the point.

Whatever your body hang-ups are, find a way to change/reframe the negative into a positive. (like we did above).

3. Build a Body Positive Tribe

Next time when you with a group of ladies, there will at some point be body-bashing conversation. Turn the conversation around by mentioning what you like about your body. Discuss the things you love about your bodies vs. the things you loathe. This will change the tone of the conversation and as well make it upbeat. The positivity will spread like wildfire

4. Let’s Get Real

Let’s get real. We live in the real world of chores, jobs, kids, traffic, cooking, cleaning…

It’s impossible to look like models or celebrities all the time – Perfect skin, hair, clothes. Real women have freckles, uneven skin tones, stretch marks, cellulite, etc. No one is perfect, so please don’t set these idealistic standard of beauty for yourself.

Aspire to be the best version of yourself, not the unrealistic ideals of beauty and body we see in the media. Redefine your version of beauty and body. What works for you!

5. Fashion Police to Flawsome

The fashion police are always investigating fashion crimes by celebrities. These so-called fashion crimes are transferred to the public through gossip magazines, websites or TV. This behaviour becomes acceptable way of viewing celebrities, people and ultimately the one you see in the mirror. Instead of looking for serious flaws, give a compliment, and mean it! Celebrate the flaws!

Over time, you’ll start to compliment yourself and appreciate your flaws. Its will cool to be FLAWSOME!

6. Look Good Feel Good

Looking good to make yourself feel good may not seem right. But It’s a great start. For most of us, making the effort to look good, makes us feel good internally. Great booster for your confidence! Remember it’s a great way to start feeling good about your body and yourself. Feeling good about yourself is so much more than the clothes you wear.

For you, that might mean going au naturel on the daily, or never leaving the house without a full face of makeup. Either way, try to take care of yourself in the ways that make you feel good. Go the extra mile and paint your nails, get a weekly blow out, learn to do a perfect top knot- whatever it is that makes you feel amazing, do that! Find a formula that works for you.

7. Say Cheese…

I used to be very fearful in the past when people would look my way. I thought they were laughing at me, or how weird my highlights looked on hair or if my clothes were hideous. Now, when I catch somebody looking at me, I smile at them and nod my head. At the same time, my heart is pounding and my nerves are shot.

Smiling sends a message to your mind to feel good and in turn your body into thinking you feel confident and amazing. The heart beat slows down, the body is calm. Adds a little sparkle to face and a spring in your step.

 

Healing the Mother Wound

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 May 14, 2017
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HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND

Today is mother’s day. for some it’s a day of celebration, warmth and love. for some it’s a painful day full of old wounds surfacing. which one is it for you?

I WANT YOU TO TAKE A MOMENT AND THINK ABOUT THE KIND OF RELATIONSHIP YOU HAD WITH YOUR MOTHER

What did it look like? How did it/does feel? Is it good or sad times?

Mum’s are one of the most pivotal players in our growth as children. They help form the very foundation of our emotional and mental development. To this very day our mums or mother-like person continue to influence us both through our deeply ingrained perceptions of life and through our feelings towards ourselves and other people.

Bless our mothers for they tried their best to nurture us. Consciously or unconsciously some mothers have left deep wounds in their children. – Laced with shame, guilt and obligation.

I just thought I mention this before I continue with this blog. I am writing this blog on the day that should be positive, representing love and nurturing. I am the voice of many who feel it more profoundly today. This is not about making you feel bad it’s about finding some healing of this trauma or wound that resides in your heart and mind.

WHAT IS THE MOTHER WOUND?

The Mother Wound is yearning for your mother’s love.

Its unresolved grief, fear, disappointment and resentment towards our mothers long into our adult lives. This deep pain is usually the result of unhealed wounds that are passed on from generation to generation. These wounds consist of toxic and oppressive beliefs, ideals, perceptions and choices.

If you suffer from the Mother Wound you will experience some of the following challenges:

  1. Sabotaging yourself when you experience happiness or success
  2. Possessing undefined personal boundaries.
  3. Cannot say NO and being too submissive
  4. Self-blaming and low self-esteem. Feeling inadequate
  5. Co-dependency relationships
  6. Playing small to be likable and accepted
  7. The inability to speak up
  8. Not in touch with yourself – numb
  9. Self-Sacrificing for other people unnecessarily
  10. Waiting for your mother’s permission on an unconscious level to truly live life

LET’S EXPLORE WHERE DOES THE MOTHER WOUND COME FROM

Women have lived under patriarchal reign for centuries. This very patriarchal society and religions have been instrumental in defining a cultural ideal of what motherhood “should” be.

Because of unrealistic standards, women abandon their dreams, lock away their desires and stifle their needs to strive towards this cultural ideal. This repression is stifling for most women, breeding anger, depression and anxiety, which is then passed on to their children through subtle – or even aggressive – forms of emotional abandonment and manipulation (such as shame, guilt and obligation). This is the Mother Wound!

Don’t get me wrong, I am not blaming our mothers. It’s getting to understand the mother wound a little better. The good news is that you can learn to understand, repair and heal the wounded parts of you.

It’s vital to remember that our mothers are human with flaws. The sooner we embrace this reality, the better. They are not super-women. We would like them to be. It’s an impossible task. We must understand how much our mothers have gone through in the face of these oppressive ideals and unrealistic expectations. It is important that we realize that our mothers have their own wounds as a result. So, they cannot be perfect, (we not perfect too) no matter how hard they try. Do you get this? It’s crucial that you understand this. This is a great way towards forgiveness.

3 STEPS TO HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND

Healing the Mother Wound is a great way to embark on the awakening of the divine feminine within you (this subject is for another blog).

As a woman and a little girl who carries a very deep Mother Wound, I have experienced just how lonely and saddening it can be to feel the emotional and mental absence of your mother. I want to share with you three tips that will help you on your healing path (it has helped me and is still healing me):

  1. LEARN TO SEE YOUR MOTHER AS A PERSON

Say it with me – My mother is a person first then she is my mother. It’s a very essential part of healing. She has had a lifetime of pain and joy before she became your mum. She too was a young girl full of dreams and desires. Discover that aspect of her to see her a whole being and not just your mother. Being your mum is just one part of her. Find your mother’s life story.

  1. LET GO OF YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF YOUR MOTHER.

What are your expectations: “my mother should always be available,” “my mother should be my best friend,” “my mother should always love me,” and so forth?

STOP! Just stop waiting around to receive the love, support and validation of your mother. You know this – you can never change who she is! As you slowly learn to let go of this expectation, the healing begins.

  1. CHANGE YOUR STORY.

Change your story by being a mother to yourself. Learning to love and nurture the wounded parts of yourself. Caring, seeing and giving voice to your inner child or wounded parts. Learning how to love yourself is a very powerful thing. On this journey, you will discover immense amount of healing and resourcefulness. Your wounds will dissolve into a greater compassion for life and yourself. Your start creating a new inner story with a profound inner acceptance.

Over to you …

Healing the Mother Wound within you will transform your life in amazing ways. You will be able to build healthier relationships with yourself and others. Feel more connected. Learn to live and enjoy life.

So, share with me below: what was life like with your mother? Do you still carry the Mother Wound? Would you like to heal your inner child pain and wounds? Get in Touch with us for a complimentary Get Clarity Coaching Session to determine how we can help you heal from the mother wound

 

Courage Creates Confidence

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 May 12, 2017
Courage Creates Confidence

Courage Creates Confidence

Courage creates Confidence! It sounds upside-down, right? I am sure you are thinking that confidence gives you courage. Let’s explore this a little more.

Everybody wants more Confidence. It’s been said, published that confidence enables us to tackle life’s challenges with more certainty and clarity. With CONFIDENCE, we can do more, be more and live more … right?

While there’s no question that confidence is a valuable attribute, there is another quality, often undervalued, that may well be even more effective. In fact, it might just be the key to building truly sustainable confidence! COURAGE…

Let’s define Confidence and Courage:

Confidence: A feeling of self-assurance. A state or quality of being certain. The feeling or belief in one’s own abilities or qualities.

Courage: The ability to do something that even when you scared. Act on one’s beliefs despite danger or disapproval. The ability to do something that you know is right or good, even though it can be the most difficult thing.

Courage Creates Confidence

Confidence lives in the comfort zone. It loves to operate within the realm of safety. It excels in what is known. This where confidence thrives. The power and certainty is based on past experiences and a build-up of achievements over time. This comfort zone is limiting. Let me give you an example. A person can be extremely confident at a task, but at the same time avoid trying a very different type of work because they don’t want to risk appearing foolish.

Now Courage is the willingness to try new different things. Take action even if we are not feeling sure of ourselves. For example, leaving a successful profession to strike out on your own requires great courage. If you’re painfully shy, learning to speak up at meetings or social functions is courageous. True courage is the willingness to risk discomfort. Doing things while being scared. We break-up with fear and move forward, building boat loads of confidence along the way.

In my opinion, courage is the most important trait for developing resilience and creating positive change in your life. Courage provides the commitment that you need to start change and the passion stay on your path during times of doubt and insecurity. Life is unpredictable and can create roadblocks on our path when we least expect it. Only courage can take you forward.

3 ways to be Courageous

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  1. Taking it one step at a time  

It’s so easy to YES to life. No can be very challenging and tricky. No offends yet we forget that it also protects us. Learning to say No builds courage and confidence. Saying No helps you from making poor decisions. This tactic can help you stay focused and prevent unnecessary complexity and wrong turns.

2. Bend, Don’t Break

Learning to flexible and adaptable to life challenges and roadblocks build courage and resilience. This in turn makes one confident. You will be like a bamboo during storms. The roots are firmly in the ground but the bamboo bends in the direction of the wind. They rarely break. Changing your game plan and letting go will be easy, when things don’t go your way.

3. Saying NO

Choose one thing that you have been avoiding. The one thing that makes you uncomfortable. Write down what do you need to do to take the next step. Maybe reading more about it or asking for help. This way an understanding can be developed about the situation.

Starting today, why not challenge yourself to celebrate each encounter with fear as an opportunity to strengthen your courage muscles and grow your confidence

15 Stress Busting Tips

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 April 12, 2017

15 Stress Busting Tips

Stress Busting is really needed in today’s fast paced world. Stress is something that everybody deals in their lives. The right dose of stress can actually be good for us. It can make us perform better when needed.

However, if you are in constant state of anxiety and stress it can begin to take its toll, physically, mentally and emotionally. To live a happy and healthy life we need to learn how to deal with stress effectively. I used to get stressed out about so many things, some of which were nothing to stress out about at all. Over the years though, I have learnt many techniques and tools that help me effectively deal with stressful times in my life.

So next time you feel that stress creeping in, try out some of my stress-busting tips. I’d love to share them with you, because although they might seem like common sense, you’d be surprised how many of them you simply aren’t doing.

My 15 Stress Busting Tips:  

  1. Manage your time effectively & Prep for tomorrow.
  2. Change to a healthy lifestyle – Eat, Exercise and Rest Well
  3. Know your limitations and learn to say NO
  4. Avoid unnecessary conflict
  5. Label your negative feelings causing stress – write it down.
  6. Unplug from cellphone, email, text messages, internet
  7. Accept the things you cannot change
  8. Laugh Out Loud
  9. Meditate to relieve stress
  10. Turn up the tunes and dance the stress away
  11. Take care of yourself  to recharge your batteries
  12. Recall one good thing that happened on that day.
  13. Find time to meet friends and have some fun
  14. Try to see things differently, develop a positive thinking style
  15. Avoid alcohol, nicotine and caffeine as coping mechanisms

Over to You

How do you manage your stress levels?

Please let us know. Don’t be shy. Insert your stress buster in the comments section. We would love to hear from you.

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