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11 Girl Boss Ignite Your Spirit Must Read Books

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 22, 2018
GIRLBOSS MUST READ BOOKS

Books! Books! Books! I love books

Holding a book, smelling its woody pages, sucking up the cover art and reading the personalised preface and acknowledgments. Wow! It invokes the imagination. It tantalises the senses and teases the brain.

Every word telling a story, transporting you to different realms and dimensions. Its invigorates the soul and spirit with every turn and twist of the words building into a story. Some words silently while others loudly blatantly thrilling, exciting, teasing as it reaches the depth of our beings.

I love romantic, psychological thrillers and obsessed with self-development books. I am a sucker for motivational types and all things that help me expand. I love to marinate in inspiration through books, specifically breakdown internal barriers, help instil vision and clarity and ignite your spirit type books.

If you’re a book type gal, I invite you to be inquisitive about them below. While I haven’t read all of them yet, I personally own all of them, and am steadily making my way through the stack. Each book was purchased either through a podcast, a blog post or a friend’s suggestion – I’m finding that the combined message between them all is, so you can get out there in the world and do what matters to you in ways that work for you.

The authors are helping readers learn to live it through vulnerability, creativity, heart, accountability and community.

So without further ado, below are 11 Inspirational, Girl Boss, Ignite Your Soul, Must-Read Books:

  1. Big Magic                                by Elizabeth Gilbert
  2. Playing Big                              by Tara Mohr
  3. Rising Strong                         by Brene Brown
  4. Leave Your Mark                   by Aliza Light
  5. The Universe has your Back   by Gabrielle Bernstein
  6. The Desire Map                      by Danielle LePort
  7. #Girlboss                                 by Sophia Amenise
  8. Make it Happen                      by Lara Casey
  9. You are a Badass                    by Jen Sincero
  10. Good to Great                         by Jim Collins
  11. The Confidence Code            by Kathy Kay & Claire Shipman

Alright girl bosses, are you feeling motivated and exhilarated?

You sure must be, because just writing this makes me want to read nonstop. Become a ferocious reader! Such Fun!

I hope you gathered some great inspiration here, possibly intrigued by a book or two. And are now starting on the incredible journey of creation, confidence, greatness, vulnerability, recognizing your self-worth, helping to create a vision for braver living, loving, and leading.

We Breaking Up with Sugar

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 November 14, 2017
breaking up with sugar

I am BREAKING UP WITH SUGAR on this World Diabetes Day

breaking up with sugar

 

IT’S BEEN A GREAT LOVE AFFAIR.

Sugar has comforted me, consoled me, made me happy, celebrated life with me, boost me up when I was down. YES! I am still breaking with sugar! from a distance oh wow it’s the best relationship you could have, BUT EVERYTHING IS NOT ALL SWEET & SEXY ABOUT SUGAR. We were told sugar is harmless (I know and we believed it) My Dear Friends It’s a BIG FAT LIE! It causes weight gain, inflammation, exhaustion, etc. Oh, dear so many unhealthy things. It’s scary.

Let Break-Up with Sugar to feel great about ourselves. We don’t need to sugar to love ourselves. We don’t need sugar to celebrate life, we don’t need sugar to boost our energy. We don’t need sugar to make us happy.  I am doing this for ME. I am choosing health. I am committed to my health. What are you going to do for yourself?

The great love affair is over.

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I can make myself happy. I celebrate life in a new way. I have great friends, a new way of living and to keep myself motivated I am listing the reasons I am breaking up with sugar:

1.             CAUSES WEIGHT GAIN
2.              MAKES YOU HUNGRY
3.              LOWERS IMMUNITY
4.              MOOD IMBALANCES
5.              LOW ENERGY/FATIGUE
6.              INFLAMMATION
7.              DIGESTION ISSUES
8.              TOOTH DECAY AND CAVITIES
9.              DIABETES COMPLICATIONS
10.           HEART DISEASE/STROKE/METABOLIC SYNDROME
11.           CANCER
12.           KIDNEY DISEASE
13.           FATTY LIVER
14.           OSTEOPOROSIS
15.           HORMONE ISSUES
16.           ACCELERATED AGING

17.                  BRAIN FOG
18                   POOR MEMORY
19                   SLEEP ISSUES

 

If this does not convince you? What will?

So, Are you breaking up with Sugar?

7 Ways to Rock Your Curves

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 June 13, 2017
Rock your curves

My blog is mainly focused on being happy and living happy. But things are changing… I want to take a moment to reflect on something that’s important to me and has become part of my core message and belief:

 Rock Your Curves. Body Confidence

My big vision is to change the outlook on curvy bodies. I would like girls with curves to wear clothes that someone with their body type typically doesn’t, with confidence.

My mission is to impact women lives by inspiring women to feel comfortable in their own skin. Aspire to be their true powerful self.

I get so many compliments and enquiries on how I achieved confidence, and how I stay body positive, in a world where we’re made to feel as if we don’t deserve to be stylish and beautiful, due to our size. In a world where our size is viewed so negatively

I started thinking about Rocking your Curves (body confidence), and how to define it.

I started to reflect on ways I’ve built my own body confidence through the years. Considering my own personal struggle to accept my natural curves most of my life. Battle with emotional eating, excessive exercise, cycle of weight loss and weight gain, I thought it was time to share my personal style of rocking my curves.

Here are my top 7 ways to Rock Your Curves (body confidence tips):

  1. Mirror Mirror on the Wall…

Many women, like yourself, who are uncomfortable with their bodies, avoid looking at themself in the mirror, especially in the nude. There is highly possibility seeing yourself in the nude can change your perception of your body, radically! We mean the positive way.

Let’s try an experiment and see what happens. Do your hair and makeup in the nude and then look at yourself in the mirror. Do this maybe twice a week for 3 weeks. Trust me, it will start to change the way you see and look at your body.  This will help you become more comfortable facing yourself in the mirror. This way to will get used to seeing your reflection without any judgements

2. Telling yourself good things…

Yes, I talk to myself all the time. No, I am not a crazy person- I know you talk to yourself too!

We tend to focus on what we don’t like about ourselves. We judge ourselves to the point where we dislike sometimes hate our bodies. But instead of critical thoughts, focus on what you like about yourself, having positive thoughts about your body and looks.

Tell yourself how proud you are that your body can do. Maybe you’re a new mom and although there are things about your post-baby body you’re still trying to deal with, be proud that your body carried a new life. You gave birth to an amazing little person.

Maybe you dislike showing your arms, but you’re a brilliant baker, so you should be thankful for those strong arms that can whip up a delicious dessert like nobody’s business!  By now I’m sure you’ve gotten the point.

Whatever your body hang-ups are, find a way to change/reframe the negative into a positive. (like we did above).

3. Build a Body Positive Tribe

Next time when you with a group of ladies, there will at some point be body-bashing conversation. Turn the conversation around by mentioning what you like about your body. Discuss the things you love about your bodies vs. the things you loathe. This will change the tone of the conversation and as well make it upbeat. The positivity will spread like wildfire

4. Let’s Get Real

Let’s get real. We live in the real world of chores, jobs, kids, traffic, cooking, cleaning…

It’s impossible to look like models or celebrities all the time – Perfect skin, hair, clothes. Real women have freckles, uneven skin tones, stretch marks, cellulite, etc. No one is perfect, so please don’t set these idealistic standard of beauty for yourself.

Aspire to be the best version of yourself, not the unrealistic ideals of beauty and body we see in the media. Redefine your version of beauty and body. What works for you!

5. Fashion Police to Flawsome

The fashion police are always investigating fashion crimes by celebrities. These so-called fashion crimes are transferred to the public through gossip magazines, websites or TV. This behaviour becomes acceptable way of viewing celebrities, people and ultimately the one you see in the mirror. Instead of looking for serious flaws, give a compliment, and mean it! Celebrate the flaws!

Over time, you’ll start to compliment yourself and appreciate your flaws. Its will cool to be FLAWSOME!

6. Look Good Feel Good

Looking good to make yourself feel good may not seem right. But It’s a great start. For most of us, making the effort to look good, makes us feel good internally. Great booster for your confidence! Remember it’s a great way to start feeling good about your body and yourself. Feeling good about yourself is so much more than the clothes you wear.

For you, that might mean going au naturel on the daily, or never leaving the house without a full face of makeup. Either way, try to take care of yourself in the ways that make you feel good. Go the extra mile and paint your nails, get a weekly blow out, learn to do a perfect top knot- whatever it is that makes you feel amazing, do that! Find a formula that works for you.

7. Say Cheese…

I used to be very fearful in the past when people would look my way. I thought they were laughing at me, or how weird my highlights looked on hair or if my clothes were hideous. Now, when I catch somebody looking at me, I smile at them and nod my head. At the same time, my heart is pounding and my nerves are shot.

Smiling sends a message to your mind to feel good and in turn your body into thinking you feel confident and amazing. The heart beat slows down, the body is calm. Adds a little sparkle to face and a spring in your step.

 

Healing the Mother Wound

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 May 14, 2017
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HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND

Today is mother’s day. for some it’s a day of celebration, warmth and love. for some it’s a painful day full of old wounds surfacing. which one is it for you?

I WANT YOU TO TAKE A MOMENT AND THINK ABOUT THE KIND OF RELATIONSHIP YOU HAD WITH YOUR MOTHER

What did it look like? How did it/does feel? Is it good or sad times?

Mum’s are one of the most pivotal players in our growth as children. They help form the very foundation of our emotional and mental development. To this very day our mums or mother-like person continue to influence us both through our deeply ingrained perceptions of life and through our feelings towards ourselves and other people.

Bless our mothers for they tried their best to nurture us. Consciously or unconsciously some mothers have left deep wounds in their children. – Laced with shame, guilt and obligation.

I just thought I mention this before I continue with this blog. I am writing this blog on the day that should be positive, representing love and nurturing. I am the voice of many who feel it more profoundly today. This is not about making you feel bad it’s about finding some healing of this trauma or wound that resides in your heart and mind.

WHAT IS THE MOTHER WOUND?

The Mother Wound is yearning for your mother’s love.

Its unresolved grief, fear, disappointment and resentment towards our mothers long into our adult lives. This deep pain is usually the result of unhealed wounds that are passed on from generation to generation. These wounds consist of toxic and oppressive beliefs, ideals, perceptions and choices.

If you suffer from the Mother Wound you will experience some of the following challenges:

  1. Sabotaging yourself when you experience happiness or success
  2. Possessing undefined personal boundaries.
  3. Cannot say NO and being too submissive
  4. Self-blaming and low self-esteem. Feeling inadequate
  5. Co-dependency relationships
  6. Playing small to be likable and accepted
  7. The inability to speak up
  8. Not in touch with yourself – numb
  9. Self-Sacrificing for other people unnecessarily
  10. Waiting for your mother’s permission on an unconscious level to truly live life

LET’S EXPLORE WHERE DOES THE MOTHER WOUND COME FROM

Women have lived under patriarchal reign for centuries. This very patriarchal society and religions have been instrumental in defining a cultural ideal of what motherhood “should” be.

Because of unrealistic standards, women abandon their dreams, lock away their desires and stifle their needs to strive towards this cultural ideal. This repression is stifling for most women, breeding anger, depression and anxiety, which is then passed on to their children through subtle – or even aggressive – forms of emotional abandonment and manipulation (such as shame, guilt and obligation). This is the Mother Wound!

Don’t get me wrong, I am not blaming our mothers. It’s getting to understand the mother wound a little better. The good news is that you can learn to understand, repair and heal the wounded parts of you.

It’s vital to remember that our mothers are human with flaws. The sooner we embrace this reality, the better. They are not super-women. We would like them to be. It’s an impossible task. We must understand how much our mothers have gone through in the face of these oppressive ideals and unrealistic expectations. It is important that we realize that our mothers have their own wounds as a result. So, they cannot be perfect, (we not perfect too) no matter how hard they try. Do you get this? It’s crucial that you understand this. This is a great way towards forgiveness.

3 STEPS TO HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND

Healing the Mother Wound is a great way to embark on the awakening of the divine feminine within you (this subject is for another blog).

As a woman and a little girl who carries a very deep Mother Wound, I have experienced just how lonely and saddening it can be to feel the emotional and mental absence of your mother. I want to share with you three tips that will help you on your healing path (it has helped me and is still healing me):

  1. LEARN TO SEE YOUR MOTHER AS A PERSON

Say it with me – My mother is a person first then she is my mother. It’s a very essential part of healing. She has had a lifetime of pain and joy before she became your mum. She too was a young girl full of dreams and desires. Discover that aspect of her to see her a whole being and not just your mother. Being your mum is just one part of her. Find your mother’s life story.

  1. LET GO OF YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF YOUR MOTHER.

What are your expectations: “my mother should always be available,” “my mother should be my best friend,” “my mother should always love me,” and so forth?

STOP! Just stop waiting around to receive the love, support and validation of your mother. You know this – you can never change who she is! As you slowly learn to let go of this expectation, the healing begins.

  1. CHANGE YOUR STORY.

Change your story by being a mother to yourself. Learning to love and nurture the wounded parts of yourself. Caring, seeing and giving voice to your inner child or wounded parts. Learning how to love yourself is a very powerful thing. On this journey, you will discover immense amount of healing and resourcefulness. Your wounds will dissolve into a greater compassion for life and yourself. Your start creating a new inner story with a profound inner acceptance.

Over to you …

Healing the Mother Wound within you will transform your life in amazing ways. You will be able to build healthier relationships with yourself and others. Feel more connected. Learn to live and enjoy life.

So, share with me below: what was life like with your mother? Do you still carry the Mother Wound? Would you like to heal your inner child pain and wounds? Get in Touch with us for a complimentary Get Clarity Coaching Session to determine how we can help you heal from the mother wound

 

5 Ways to Colour Your Life with Happiness

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 March 12, 2017
colour your life with happiness

Colour Your Life with Happiness.

Soon it will be the festival of colour or Happy Holi, celebrated by Hindus all over the world.

This year it’s on 21 March 2019

 

In the Southern hemisphere, we are in full force summer. Abundance of colour all around us. Caressing the eyes, soothing the senses, igniting our lives with passion and excitement. The vivid hues tantalising our taste and thirst for a vibrant life. Dazzling our dreams with pulsating energy. At times calming our minds and warming our hearts. A gentle glow glimmer of hope.

I love infusing colour in my life to create Happiness, Hope and Harmony. Every morning when I awake I ponder my day and select the colour that is needed for the day. Some days are filled with positive events and activities that are full of bright colours. Other days are filled with challenges that are dark and sombre. I love to use the rainbow of colours to start the day. It’s fun and easy way to create positivity and richness in your life. Colours invoke our emotions – either positively or negatively. Let’s see how we can use colours to impact our lives and happiness. (Scientist say colours can influence your mood)

 5 Ways to colour your life with Happiness

  1.  Add a pot plant or buy flowers to brighten up and happy up your surroundings.
  2. Wear colourful cloths and if colour is not your thing wear happy socks
  3. Use colourful dinner set or breakfast utensils. Colourful mugs for your tea or coffee. Drink water in a blue glass
  4. Try a new colour nail polish or lipstick
  5. Eat colourful foods

colour yur life happy

The effects of 9 basic colours on your happiness: –

  1. Red is a vibrant colour that invokes passion, power, romance, drama, bravery
  2. Orange is a warm colour that conveys friendliness, fun, energy, creativity, innovation
  3. Yellow is a sunny colour that incites positivity, happiness, softness, hospitality, upliftment
  4. Green is a soothing colour that encourages growth, relaxation, renewal, safety, gentleness
  5. Blue is a versatile colour that delivers tranquillity, reflectiveness, dependability, intelligence, strength
  6. Purple is an enigmatic colour that arouses eccentricity, sophistication, excitement, calmness, luxury
  7. Brown is an organic colour that evokes earthiness, resilience, comfort, warmth, familiarity
  8. Black is a mysterious colour that invokes confidence, authority, seriousness, stability, safety
  9. White is a cool colour that conveys timelessness, purity, neutrality, cleanliness, freshness

The above colours incites these blissful emotions into my life.

Colours invoke pure pleasure and happiness. Infusing hope for something possible. There are many colours that might make you happy but the colours that I find to simply bring the greatest amount of happiness, hope and harmony into my life are red, black and orange.

How do you colour your life with happiness?

Book a FREE coaching call on how we can help you Colour Your Life with Happiness.

Let us show you how to infuse some brightness or calmness into your life.

What do you need?

 

 

15 Things Successful Women STOP DOING

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 March 3, 2017
15 things successful women stop doing

15 Things Successful Women STOP DOING

Stop doing what you doing if it’s not working!

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Albert Einstein

Learning from your experience is such a powerful skill. Many successful women acquire a “realisation” (over time) – they stop the old way of doing things. It’s a moment of splendour, insight and a huge AHA moment. It’s so great to be in this space. Can you imagine the possibilities and opportunities for new dreams and goals?

Here are the universal lessons that successful smart women learn and grasp. Its these insights that drive them to thrive in life. Propel them to flourish and prosper.

Successful women STOP …

  1. Doing things, the old way that did not work
  2. Relying on the outer world for validation and approval
  3. Being all things to all people
  4. Complaining , comparing and being a copycat
  5. Trying to be perfect
  6. Trusting anybody or anything that seems too perfect
  7. Focusing on short gratification and keep their sight on their long-term vision
  8. Being distracted by short term disruptions and instant results
  9. Trying to change other people
  10. Assuming and expecting. They act, measure, revolve, adjust & move forward.
  11. Doing everything themselves. They learn to delegate and ask for help.
  12. Letting circumstances define them.
  13. Blaming others and themselves for their mistakes. They acknowledge, accept learn and move on
  14. Carelessly and thoughtlessly trusting the venture. They gather relevant information that would impact them personally
  15. Pleasing others. They remain true to their own self, values and ethics

Smart successful women are not superwoman. They are human like you and me. They mess up like you and me. These women feel the pain of messing up like you and me. Smart women don’t want to experience pain again. They are willing to understand what caused it, change their game plan never to repeat it again……

What are you willing to stop doing to be successful?

Fears, Failures and Fat

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 28, 2017
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Fears, Failures and Fat

Oh darling! These words feel so cosy and comfortable. They may have been your friend or foe for a long time. Depends your relationship with them.

We LIVING in the world of FLAWS = FEAR + FAILURES + FAT

This world of flaws may seem big but in fact you have been living very small.

In the world of Flaws, it can be debilitating and limiting. Its creates stories that keep you back in life and not allow you to try new things or engage with new people. The inner voice of fears, failures and fat is very tricky and naughty. Conjuring up stories to convince you that you are broken and need to be fixed. A few of the stories that live in the world of Flaws are:

I am so fat

I am ugly

I am not pretty

I am such a failure and looser

I earn little money

I have such a small house

My thighs are so fat.

I am boring

I am so weak

I am not educated enough

I am not smart enough

I am plain Jane

I hate myself for not being able to say no

I haven’t handled that situation very well.

People don’t like me…..

Do some of the stories in the world of Flaws seem as your own?

All our “flaws” are based on our own interpretations and perspectives. We fixate about certain aspects of our body, our appearance, our personality, our life, our work and consider them as “flawed.”

We all experience a sense of feeling flawed in certain aspects of our lives and at times in life. It’s a natural human condition. There is absolutely nothing wrong feeling this way. We all want to feel whole and have a sense of belonging. But, feeling flawed can rob us of our energy, our passion, our happiness, our confidence, and living our life. It’s one of the most painful ways to live and can result in a very dissatisfied life.

So, you see living in the world of Flaws is not so wonderful!!!

I would love to live in a world of Flawsome.

Ok I know it sounds weird.

In the world of Flawsome we are flawed and fabulous at the same time. And it’s a great place to be. Now you must be curious how can one be flawed and fab at once. Well you can …

3 steps to live in the world of Flawsome (fears, Failures, fat, fabulous)

Step 1  Lets get real about your flaws

Acknowledge the limitations, weaknesses, faults, failings, inadequacies, imperfections, shortcomings. We just bringing them to light without judgement. We are not running away or avoiding them anymore. There is a personal power and freedom in acknowledging them.

Step 2 Feeling the Flaws

Express your underlying feelings for your perceived flaws. Is it fear or shame? Do you feel angry about something at work or with your career? Sad about people treating you badly? All these feelings create a sense discomfort, pain and unease. In these situations, we tend to suppress our emotions. The memory of the painful situation gets bottled up. By giving these feelings a voice you can unhook and unlock from the memory of the situation.

Step 3 Love being Flawsome

View your flaws with kindness and compassion. Love your flaws – this creates a safe space to accept our flaws and give us the courage to change our mindset about them. It allows healing and creates place for new possibilities, new stories to be told.

A world in which we can adore our flaws and fab side by side. Where the light and dark co-exist. Where we can love our fears, failures & fat. Being whole. Exploring, Discovering, Becoming. Where there is a possibility of living, large and light.

This is the world of Flawsome.

 Would you like to live there?

How to Love Yourself?

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 7, 2017
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Do you love yourself?

Do you know that you’re very special and unique? There is no other person like you. You deserve to be loved by the most important person in your life — YOU. We celebrating the month of love starting with YOU. (YOU MATTER YOU SMART YOU KIND YOU POWER YOU  ♥ HEART)

Practicing self-love can be tough for many of us, especially during trying times. It’s not about being self-absorbed or self-centred, it’s about getting in touch with ourselves, our well-being and our joy. We practice self-love so we can break through our limiting beliefs and create & live a life that we truly love.

Below are 21 ways to love yourself: –

  1. Start being honest with yourself about everything going on in your life.
  2. Accept where are right now in your life – without judgement
  3. Connect with your inner self and higher self
  4. Face your inner resistance, barriers and fears
  5. Be kind, compassionate towards yourself
  6. Forgive yourself and others
  7. Make peace with your past
  8. Start enjoying the things and relationships you already have
  9. Start dreaming and doing
  10. Start creating your own happiness
  11. Build and nurture relationships where you feel appreciated and loved. Where you feel safe to be open and vulnerable
  12. Become the love you seek from other people
  13. Pay attention to your stress/worry/tension/anxiety levels and find ways to manage the stress/worry/tension/anxiety.
  14. Be yourself, genuinely and proudly
  15. Nurture and nourish your body
  16. Take care of your time, your space and your finances.
  17. Laugh more in life
  18. Find work and activities you love and that adds joy and meaning
  19. Believe in your abilities
  20. Find the positive during challenging times
  21. Flaunt your Flawsomeness!

Reflections….

Reality of life:  People will come and go.  Events will come and go.  Day and night will come and go.  But deep unconditional love for yourself will always remain with you, if you nurture and nourish it.

“Put these things on your TO-DO list today:

  1. Spend time doing things that help you love yourself more.

  2. Spend time thinking about things that help you love yourself more.

  3. Spend time with people who help you love yourself more.”

Over to YOU…

Which of these points do you struggle with?

How will you love yourself today?

Being a Real Woman Today

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 January 12, 2017
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Being a Real Woman Today

What does that mean?

Modern society has evolved where a woman is expected to be SuperWoman. She is a mother, wife, daughter, friend, boss, career woman, housekeeper, chef, ….. These demands can really break a woman down, and that’s why we should forget about society definition of being a real woman today.

A REAL WOMAN TODAY …

  1. Lives in the present day.Today is the most interesting and important day for her.
  2. Celebrates being a real woman
  3. A real woman doesn’t chase happiness.
  4. Cultivates her femininity internally (emotions, feelings, thoughts) and externally (body, clothing, behaviour).
  5. Lives at her own pace.
  6. Makes her dreams and desires come true
  7. Healthy appretite for life and for fun
  8. She is her own #1 fan
  9. Is able to support, help, and empathise with others.
  10. A real woman has her own life goals; she creates and achieves them.
  11. Doesn’t live by a ’checklist’ given by society
  12. She stopped being the ‘good girl’ long ago
  13. A real woman loves and appreciates being alone
  14. Ages gracefully. Loving her age.
  15. She knows that every age has its own beauty, sexuality, and charm.

THIS IS MY VERSION of BEING A REAL WOMAN TODAY

Over to you.

What is your definition of being a real woman today?

Please comment below to let us know your perspective

Top 7 Money Mistakes of Women

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 October 23, 2016
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Top 7 Money Mistakes of Women

For many women money is a highly sensitive issue. Something uncomfortable and awkward. It is still a taboo subject in this day and age. It’s mind-blogging! Lifestyles have changed and roles of women in the family unit have evolved. Many are single breadwinners. Yet we women are still enticed by the romantic notion of Cinderella.

I am very surprised how many women (mostly independent, employed, sophisticated women, some of them self-identified feminists, some of them professionals, some of them new age feminine thinkers) have the fantasy that some man is going to rescue them financially.

A very dear friend (Sam) was involved with a very wealthy man. I was extremely surprised, when they broke up, at the reaction of our friends. Sam broke up with him. Our friends, who were all independent, employed, sophisticated women, were not particularly supportive. They were all kind of like, “He treats you so well, he’s so rich and he is so nice. What are you doing? Why you leaving him?” You can smell the fear…

It was just amazing to see these very successful, independent and educated women kind of reduced to women out of a Jane Austen novel. Scary!

In my women tribe we talk and write about divorce, sagging boobs and sex, but we don’t really talk about money in a way that is as profound or exploratory. I raise the topic at times but it falls to deaf ears. Why are so many women reluctant to talk openly about the role money plays in their lives and relationships?

Here are the top 7 Money Mistakes of Women:

  1. Money is intricately woven in our self-worth & self-esteem.
  2. Think they don’t know much about investing their money.
  3. Financial compatibility and value is not considered in long term relationships.
  4. Let someone else – a spouse, a parent, a partner, an advisor – take care of everything for us.
  5. Put others’ needs ahead of our own
  6. Do not ask or plan for what we need financially – present and future
  7. Are too embarrassed to talk with our family or friends about money.

What money mistakes are you making as a woman?

I think its time to take your money power back NOW!. Why you need to take control now.

The good news: More women are now the family breadwinner (look at that!). The bad news: We still tend to pass the buck on important money matters, such as investing and retirement.

No need to be scared. There is so much information and knowledge out there to guide you and find solutions to suit your money personality. So be bold & brave take your money power back.

Ready to take charge of your financial future?

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