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Your Sensitivity is Your Strength

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 16, 2019
Sensitvity

Sensitivity in our modern world is an uncomfortable thing. Its denial borders on amusing.

Yet in the depths of human needs, we all crave for sensitivity and care. Without it we would be lost.

Like you, I have struggled with sensitivity all my life. I still get baffled how to fit sensitivity into my world. Life gets complicated at times when navigating through life. I was influenced by a culture where sensitivity is defined as a weakness and showing emotion as a social embarrassment. I married into this as well. Culturally where it’s inappropriate to experience or express sensitivity. This is all that I knew at the time.

I also stayed in the corporate world just so that I had some form of identity and recognition. A false sense of power and strength. But it was cold place for me to be. My sensitivity screamed at me every day. Its not who you are! My soul whispered let go.

This reminds me: many years ago, a homeopath looked at me and told me to leave the corporate world. “It’s just too harsh for your soul, darling.” A sweet wise old lady. I never took her seriously. I was too busy being a corporate person. I got lost in this world. In a world of “suck it up, get over yourself, toughen up or stop being too sensitive” were the norm. My sensitivity never gave up on me. I began my journey on discovering what being sensitive meant to me.

Sensitivity is My Strength

It’s all about embracing and accepting my deep feelings. Not fighting them! All my life I repressed or avoided my feelings. Avoided the world/life, uncomfortable situations or people. It was a journey of empowering myself every time I get sensitive about a situation or person. I ask myself – what was my contribution to this event? Whose drama is this? Does it add value to my life?

This way I was not denying or repressing my emotions. I was empowering myself. Instead of getting angry or feeling guilty or stupid I found a peaceful response to my emotions. But there was still something off-balance inside me. I did not know how to take care of me. Love and nourish me. I always believed that it was the other persons job to love me and take care of me. To my astonishment it was not going be.

I slowly started on the journey of self-love and nourishment. (Louise Hay my sensitivity saviour). I found the simple truths of trust and faith. I found my port of safety and security. Where I can anchor my sensitivity. This I found in meditation and laughter yoga. Discovering an inner calmness! An inner strength!

Navigating the World

Navigating the world as a highly sensitive person (HSP) can be very traumatic. This can leave you feeling not so good about yourself. Not worthy of many things in life. Sometimes we are not aware of this behaviour. We build barriers to protect ourselves from this harsh reality of the world we travel.

To find my sense of self and remove the layers of trauma, I left my corporate job and started doing laughter yoga workshops. Taking one risk at a time. Starting with small groups of workshops. I started to feel a sense of belonging a sense of self. I got curious about being me in this world. Hey, I oscillate between being seen and hiding. Part of me is still afraid of being labelled or boxed into some cliché.

The good news is that a HSP can remove the layers of pain and hurt. Be surprised what you can discover about yourself. The journey is not an easy one. The tagline “You are worth it” comes to mind.

Also, this digital age desperately needs sensitive people. HSP people have the gift of connecting, caring and empathising.

I encourage you to show up as your sensitive self. Its your strength.

11 Girl Boss Ignite Your Spirit Must Read Books

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 22, 2018
GIRLBOSS MUST READ BOOKS

Books! Books! Books! I love books

Holding a book, smelling its woody pages, sucking up the cover art and reading the personalised preface and acknowledgments. Wow! It invokes the imagination. It tantalises the senses and teases the brain.

Every word telling a story, transporting you to different realms and dimensions. Its invigorates the soul and spirit with every turn and twist of the words building into a story. Some words silently while others loudly blatantly thrilling, exciting, teasing as it reaches the depth of our beings.

I love romantic, psychological thrillers and obsessed with self-development books. I am a sucker for motivational types and all things that help me expand. I love to marinate in inspiration through books, specifically breakdown internal barriers, help instil vision and clarity and ignite your spirit type books.

If you’re a book type gal, I invite you to be inquisitive about them below. While I haven’t read all of them yet, I personally own all of them, and am steadily making my way through the stack. Each book was purchased either through a podcast, a blog post or a friend’s suggestion – I’m finding that the combined message between them all is, so you can get out there in the world and do what matters to you in ways that work for you.

The authors are helping readers learn to live it through vulnerability, creativity, heart, accountability and community.

So without further ado, below are 11 Inspirational, Girl Boss, Ignite Your Soul, Must-Read Books:

  1. Big Magic                                by Elizabeth Gilbert
  2. Playing Big                              by Tara Mohr
  3. Rising Strong                         by Brene Brown
  4. Leave Your Mark                   by Aliza Light
  5. The Universe has your Back   by Gabrielle Bernstein
  6. The Desire Map                      by Danielle LePort
  7. #Girlboss                                 by Sophia Amenise
  8. Make it Happen                      by Lara Casey
  9. You are a Badass                    by Jen Sincero
  10. Good to Great                         by Jim Collins
  11. The Confidence Code            by Kathy Kay & Claire Shipman

Alright girl bosses, are you feeling motivated and exhilarated?

You sure must be, because just writing this makes me want to read nonstop. Become a ferocious reader! Such Fun!

I hope you gathered some great inspiration here, possibly intrigued by a book or two. And are now starting on the incredible journey of creation, confidence, greatness, vulnerability, recognizing your self-worth, helping to create a vision for braver living, loving, and leading.

After Valentines Day

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 15, 2018
after valentines day

After Valentines day, were you one of the many incredible and amazing people that had an awful Valentine’s day. I can feel your pain and hurt. Did you dread the day and felt like it was the longest day that would just not end?

Are you feeling not good enough because you did not get flowers, chocolates or gift? No one declared their undying love for you! Do you feel like there is something wrong with you? That is BS. Biggest lie that we tell ourselves. These are all the negative thoughts and feelings we have about ourselves. I have made it my passion to replace: I am not good enough with positive thoughts and vibes.

One way of doing this is using positive affirmations. If you want to up your feel-good factor and confidence I suggest adding positive affirmations to your daily routine. They must be personal, feel sacred and special for you.

I have included my top 10 positive affirmations below as encouragement to create a powerful sentence that inspires you.

  • I love and accept myself just the way I am today
  • I am powerful now. I can achieve anything I put my mind to.
  • I accept and approve of my body
  • I am intelligent, capable and competent
  • I believe in myself and free to be me
  • I trust myself to make good choices in life
  • I allow and give myself permission to receive good things in my life
  • I am completely open to new experiences in life.
  • I am loving lovable and loved
  • I am worthy of love, joy and abundance

How to use your affirmation:

  1. Sit in a quiet place comfortably
  2. Take a deep breath in for a count of 4.
  3. Hold the breath for a count of 4.
  4. Slowly exhale for a count of 6 as you say the affirmation in your mind.
  5. Repeat this process 3 times to invite each affirmation to resonate and vibrate into your mind and body.

Observe your thoughts and feelings during the exercise. Any time you notice a negative thought pattern or feeling, repeat your affirmation. At the end of your session, repeat the breathing exercise you started with. Just breath 3 times – no affirmations. This will help internalise and reinforce your affirmations.

This entire process is to build confidence that your thoughts, feelings and your actions are in alignment.

Reflections…

Reality of life:  People will come and go.  Events will come and go.  Day and night will come and go.  But deep unconditional love for yourself will always remain with you, if you nurture and nourish it. Make it one of your most important priority in life.

Over to YOU…

How are positive affirmations working for you? Do you use affirmations in your life?

Let us know in the comment section

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to Cope with Valentines Day?

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 13, 2018
valentines-day

Valentines day! Day of hearts, chocolates and flowers.

But its not all rosy for many people. It’s a traumatic and sad for many. The expectation set out by commercial establishments had people waiting in anticipation. Only to have their hearts broken. I was one of the people who fell for the glamour/illusion of Valentine’s day. My heart was ripped to pieces. Have you had a similar experience? Well let me tell you.

Do you know that you’re very special and unique? There is no other person like you. You deserve to be loved by the most important person in your life — YOU. We are celebrating the month of love starting with YOU.

(YOU MATTER YOU SMART YOU KIND YOU POWERFUL YOU ♥ HEART)

Practicing self-love can be tough for many of us, especially when it Valentines. There is so much emphasis on romantic love. It can be extremely lonely. The void and the emptiness are amplified. Your self-worth gets a knock and you feel so rejected by life.

Does that seem or sound like you? We are focusing on YOU and loving you. It’s not about being self-absorbed or self-centred, it’s about getting in touch with ourselves, our well-being and our joy. We practice self-love, so we can break through our limiting beliefs. When you love yourself so deeply and unconditionally, magic happens. The loneliness and low self-worth disappears. You get so comfortable in your own skin that you do not need love and approval from outside. You may be wondering where to begin.

Below are 21 ways to love yourself: –loving yourself

 

 

 

  1. Start being honest with yourself about everything going on in your life.
  2. Accept where are right now in your life – without judgement
  3. Connect with your inner self and higher self
  4. Face your inner resistance, barriers and fears
  5. Be kind, compassionate towards yourself
  6. Forgive yourself and others
  7. Make peace with your past
  8. Start enjoying the things and relationships you already have
  9. Start dreaming and doing
  10. Start creating your own happiness – on your terms
  11. Build and nurture relationships where you feel appreciated and loved. Where you feel safe to be open and vulnerable
  12. Become the love you seek from other people
  13. Pay attention to your stress/worry/tension/anxiety levels and find ways to manage the stress/worry/tension/anxiety.
  14. Be yourself, genuinely and proudly
  15. Nurture and nourish your body
  16. Take care of your time, your space and your finances.
  17. Laugh more in life
  18. Find work and activities you love and that adds joy and meaning
  19. Believe in your abilities
  20. Find the positive during challenging times
  21. Flaunt your Flawsomeness!

Reflections….

Reality of life:  People will come and go.  Events will come and go.  Day and night will come and go.  But deep unconditional love for yourself will always remain with you, if you nurture and nourish it.

“Put these things on your TO-DO list today:

  1. Spend time doing things that help you love yourself more.
  2. Spend time with people who help you love yourself more.”

Over to YOU…

Are you ready to start loving yourself deeply and unconditionally?

10 Ways to Relax after Work

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 January 20, 2018
10 ways to relax

Relaxing after work is one of my goal for 2018

We into the 3rd week of Jan 2018. I don’t know about you guys, but before the exhaustion of the commute and work pressure get you down. Here are some ideas how to unwind after work.

In 2017, I used to just bite the bullet. Convince myself that this is just life and that I had to keep going no matter what.

But over the holidays, I realized that if I want to be top my game, I need to make my overall well-being a priority. I need to make time to unwind when I get home, time to relax and de-stress.

Life was so much simpler when we were kids. But we were in a hurry to be adults. We thought adulting would be fun and free.

Adulting has been a lot harder. Relaxing is just not on the cards.  I’d get home and think about all the zillion things I wanted or needed to do, so taking a breather wasn’t on the cards. So, if that sounds like your life and you need some help in the de-stressing department, here are

10 easy ways to relax after a long day at work:

Listen to Relaxing Music

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Change into Comfy Clothes

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Enjoy A Glass of Wine 

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Unplug for 2-3 Hours

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Light Up Some Soy Candles

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Use Essential or Aroma Therapy Oils

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Take a Bubble Bath

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Meditate/Do Yoga

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Read A Book

Read a Book

Get Crafty

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My favourite way to relax is listening to soothing music in my comfy cloths sipping tantalising red wine.

How do you unwind after a long day? Let us know in the comment section

High5 to a New You Year 2018

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 January 16, 2018
new you 2018

‘Without leaps of imagination or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities’  Gloria Steinem

High5 to a NEW YOU 2018

I love the New Year or new beginnings. I get all excited to about the possibilities in life. A time for renewed hope and dreams. It is time for celebrations. Can you feel the excitement? Exhilaration? I am absolutely invigorated. I love the lightness that invoke a sense of brightness. We into the 3rd week of January 2018 already.

I am sure you have received tons of email about New Year 2018: change your life, transform your life, make it the best year ever, 5 steps to maintain New Year resolutions, 3 steps to create a new life in 2018 and many more telling you how to awesome 2018 can be. They all mean well and it’s great to have coaches, bloggers, and mentors to guide and encourage you. These emails can excite or sometimes it can create a feeling of overwhelming proportion when the mountain ahead of us appears too large to summit.

Let’s take a step back. Clear our minds of:

1) What should be and how it should.
2) All the stories you have been telling yourself since it’s the New Year.
3) Are you feeling the pressure when people ask what are the plans for 2018

Step 1 – Set your intention

Reflect on 2017. What lessons have you learnt? Are there some things that will continue in the New Year? Do you still want the same things? What do you want in life? It all starts with what you want in life. Then you have the choice in creating what you want in life. What is your deepest desires? What does your heart yearn for? It starts from the heart. Think about what it is you want. Think & Feel your intensions. Set your intention. It’s a great starting point.

Step 2 – List your dreams

Be bold and big. Write down every dream you can think of. From a dream date with your favourite movie star to owning a Ferrari. Submitting Mount Everest or going to Cordon Blue School in Paris. Travelling to Amazon jungle to volunteering for WHO. Stop analysing just write it all down. There is no wrong or right dream. If you have thoughts this is not me or this is not for me. Just ignore them for now. Select one to three dreams from the list. The ones where the music is clear and booming.

Step 3 – The BIG WHY

Now read the dreams aloud. Sensing and feeling when you read each dream out loud. Write how this dream would transform your life. For example, owning your own business can give you financial security or financial freedom. It can empower you buy your dream home. It can make you feel independent, talented, successful, have your own personal identity. Think if your dream came true, how you would feel. What would change in your life as a result of your aspirations coming alive? This is Your BIG WHY! Why do you want this dream to come alive? The BIG WHY is the key ingredient to keep you motivated and committed to the dream when you feel like giving up.

Step 4 – See Your New Life

Sit quietly and reflect as if the dream has already come alive. Live in the happiness, the success and whatever feeling the dream invokes. Picture where your friends, where you are, how does the environment and atmosphere feel. Imagine having the correct people and things to make your wish to come true. How does it look, feel, taste, and smell? Sense the dream as if it’s already part of your life. Feel the BIG Why. Listen to your body for messages for how to achieve the dream. Hear the music inside you. Release struggle and resistance. Let there be happiness, ease and flow in your visualisation.

Step 5 – Take the first step

All things are achieved one action at a time. BE BIG & BOLD take the first step.

Each day each step adds up, and just like putting one foot, one step ahead of the other on your path, soon you will be on the top of the mountain, looking down at your accomplishment with self-satisfaction and self-respect.

I’m here today to help you plant the flag in the top of your mountain, by encouraging you to take the first step. Why not you!? You were born for greatness. You were born to impact this world. Dare to leave your mark. Your Legacy! Dare to Dream. You have a dream inside of you that only you can achieve.

So, what will your first step be today?

NEW YOU 2018

To THE NEW YOU 2018

 

 

 

We Breaking Up with Sugar

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 November 14, 2017
breaking up with sugar

I am BREAKING UP WITH SUGAR on this World Diabetes Day

breaking up with sugar

 

IT’S BEEN A GREAT LOVE AFFAIR.

Sugar has comforted me, consoled me, made me happy, celebrated life with me, boost me up when I was down. YES! I am still breaking with sugar! from a distance oh wow it’s the best relationship you could have, BUT EVERYTHING IS NOT ALL SWEET & SEXY ABOUT SUGAR. We were told sugar is harmless (I know and we believed it) My Dear Friends It’s a BIG FAT LIE! It causes weight gain, inflammation, exhaustion, etc. Oh, dear so many unhealthy things. It’s scary.

Let Break-Up with Sugar to feel great about ourselves. We don’t need to sugar to love ourselves. We don’t need sugar to celebrate life, we don’t need sugar to boost our energy. We don’t need sugar to make us happy.  I am doing this for ME. I am choosing health. I am committed to my health. What are you going to do for yourself?

The great love affair is over.

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I can make myself happy. I celebrate life in a new way. I have great friends, a new way of living and to keep myself motivated I am listing the reasons I am breaking up with sugar:

1.             CAUSES WEIGHT GAIN
2.              MAKES YOU HUNGRY
3.              LOWERS IMMUNITY
4.              MOOD IMBALANCES
5.              LOW ENERGY/FATIGUE
6.              INFLAMMATION
7.              DIGESTION ISSUES
8.              TOOTH DECAY AND CAVITIES
9.              DIABETES COMPLICATIONS
10.           HEART DISEASE/STROKE/METABOLIC SYNDROME
11.           CANCER
12.           KIDNEY DISEASE
13.           FATTY LIVER
14.           OSTEOPOROSIS
15.           HORMONE ISSUES
16.           ACCELERATED AGING

17.                  BRAIN FOG
18                   POOR MEMORY
19                   SLEEP ISSUES

 

If this does not convince you? What will?

So, Are you breaking up with Sugar?

Healing the Mother Wound

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 May 14, 2017
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HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND

Today is mother’s day. for some it’s a day of celebration, warmth and love. for some it’s a painful day full of old wounds surfacing. which one is it for you?

I WANT YOU TO TAKE A MOMENT AND THINK ABOUT THE KIND OF RELATIONSHIP YOU HAD WITH YOUR MOTHER

What did it look like? How did it/does feel? Is it good or sad times?

Mum’s are one of the most pivotal players in our growth as children. They help form the very foundation of our emotional and mental development. To this very day our mums or mother-like person continue to influence us both through our deeply ingrained perceptions of life and through our feelings towards ourselves and other people.

Bless our mothers for they tried their best to nurture us. Consciously or unconsciously some mothers have left deep wounds in their children. – Laced with shame, guilt and obligation.

I just thought I mention this before I continue with this blog. I am writing this blog on the day that should be positive, representing love and nurturing. I am the voice of many who feel it more profoundly today. This is not about making you feel bad it’s about finding some healing of this trauma or wound that resides in your heart and mind.

WHAT IS THE MOTHER WOUND?

The Mother Wound is yearning for your mother’s love.

Its unresolved grief, fear, disappointment and resentment towards our mothers long into our adult lives. This deep pain is usually the result of unhealed wounds that are passed on from generation to generation. These wounds consist of toxic and oppressive beliefs, ideals, perceptions and choices.

If you suffer from the Mother Wound you will experience some of the following challenges:

  1. Sabotaging yourself when you experience happiness or success
  2. Possessing undefined personal boundaries.
  3. Cannot say NO and being too submissive
  4. Self-blaming and low self-esteem. Feeling inadequate
  5. Co-dependency relationships
  6. Playing small to be likable and accepted
  7. The inability to speak up
  8. Not in touch with yourself – numb
  9. Self-Sacrificing for other people unnecessarily
  10. Waiting for your mother’s permission on an unconscious level to truly live life

LET’S EXPLORE WHERE DOES THE MOTHER WOUND COME FROM

Women have lived under patriarchal reign for centuries. This very patriarchal society and religions have been instrumental in defining a cultural ideal of what motherhood “should” be.

Because of unrealistic standards, women abandon their dreams, lock away their desires and stifle their needs to strive towards this cultural ideal. This repression is stifling for most women, breeding anger, depression and anxiety, which is then passed on to their children through subtle – or even aggressive – forms of emotional abandonment and manipulation (such as shame, guilt and obligation). This is the Mother Wound!

Don’t get me wrong, I am not blaming our mothers. It’s getting to understand the mother wound a little better. The good news is that you can learn to understand, repair and heal the wounded parts of you.

It’s vital to remember that our mothers are human with flaws. The sooner we embrace this reality, the better. They are not super-women. We would like them to be. It’s an impossible task. We must understand how much our mothers have gone through in the face of these oppressive ideals and unrealistic expectations. It is important that we realize that our mothers have their own wounds as a result. So, they cannot be perfect, (we not perfect too) no matter how hard they try. Do you get this? It’s crucial that you understand this. This is a great way towards forgiveness.

3 STEPS TO HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND

Healing the Mother Wound is a great way to embark on the awakening of the divine feminine within you (this subject is for another blog).

As a woman and a little girl who carries a very deep Mother Wound, I have experienced just how lonely and saddening it can be to feel the emotional and mental absence of your mother. I want to share with you three tips that will help you on your healing path (it has helped me and is still healing me):

  1. LEARN TO SEE YOUR MOTHER AS A PERSON

Say it with me – My mother is a person first then she is my mother. It’s a very essential part of healing. She has had a lifetime of pain and joy before she became your mum. She too was a young girl full of dreams and desires. Discover that aspect of her to see her a whole being and not just your mother. Being your mum is just one part of her. Find your mother’s life story.

  1. LET GO OF YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF YOUR MOTHER.

What are your expectations: “my mother should always be available,” “my mother should be my best friend,” “my mother should always love me,” and so forth?

STOP! Just stop waiting around to receive the love, support and validation of your mother. You know this – you can never change who she is! As you slowly learn to let go of this expectation, the healing begins.

  1. CHANGE YOUR STORY.

Change your story by being a mother to yourself. Learning to love and nurture the wounded parts of yourself. Caring, seeing and giving voice to your inner child or wounded parts. Learning how to love yourself is a very powerful thing. On this journey, you will discover immense amount of healing and resourcefulness. Your wounds will dissolve into a greater compassion for life and yourself. Your start creating a new inner story with a profound inner acceptance.

Over to you …

Healing the Mother Wound within you will transform your life in amazing ways. You will be able to build healthier relationships with yourself and others. Feel more connected. Learn to live and enjoy life.

So, share with me below: what was life like with your mother? Do you still carry the Mother Wound? Would you like to heal your inner child pain and wounds? Get in Touch with us for a complimentary Get Clarity Coaching Session to determine how we can help you heal from the mother wound

 

Fears, Failures and Fat

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 28, 2017
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Fears, Failures and Fat

Oh darling! These words feel so cosy and comfortable. They may have been your friend or foe for a long time. Depends your relationship with them.

We LIVING in the world of FLAWS = FEAR + FAILURES + FAT

This world of flaws may seem big but in fact you have been living very small.

In the world of Flaws, it can be debilitating and limiting. Its creates stories that keep you back in life and not allow you to try new things or engage with new people. The inner voice of fears, failures and fat is very tricky and naughty. Conjuring up stories to convince you that you are broken and need to be fixed. A few of the stories that live in the world of Flaws are:

I am so fat

I am ugly

I am not pretty

I am such a failure and looser

I earn little money

I have such a small house

My thighs are so fat.

I am boring

I am so weak

I am not educated enough

I am not smart enough

I am plain Jane

I hate myself for not being able to say no

I haven’t handled that situation very well.

People don’t like me…..

Do some of the stories in the world of Flaws seem as your own?

All our “flaws” are based on our own interpretations and perspectives. We fixate about certain aspects of our body, our appearance, our personality, our life, our work and consider them as “flawed.”

We all experience a sense of feeling flawed in certain aspects of our lives and at times in life. It’s a natural human condition. There is absolutely nothing wrong feeling this way. We all want to feel whole and have a sense of belonging. But, feeling flawed can rob us of our energy, our passion, our happiness, our confidence, and living our life. It’s one of the most painful ways to live and can result in a very dissatisfied life.

So, you see living in the world of Flaws is not so wonderful!!!

I would love to live in a world of Flawsome.

Ok I know it sounds weird.

In the world of Flawsome we are flawed and fabulous at the same time. And it’s a great place to be. Now you must be curious how can one be flawed and fab at once. Well you can …

3 steps to live in the world of Flawsome (fears, Failures, fat, fabulous)

Step 1  Lets get real about your flaws

Acknowledge the limitations, weaknesses, faults, failings, inadequacies, imperfections, shortcomings. We just bringing them to light without judgement. We are not running away or avoiding them anymore. There is a personal power and freedom in acknowledging them.

Step 2 Feeling the Flaws

Express your underlying feelings for your perceived flaws. Is it fear or shame? Do you feel angry about something at work or with your career? Sad about people treating you badly? All these feelings create a sense discomfort, pain and unease. In these situations, we tend to suppress our emotions. The memory of the painful situation gets bottled up. By giving these feelings a voice you can unhook and unlock from the memory of the situation.

Step 3 Love being Flawsome

View your flaws with kindness and compassion. Love your flaws – this creates a safe space to accept our flaws and give us the courage to change our mindset about them. It allows healing and creates place for new possibilities, new stories to be told.

A world in which we can adore our flaws and fab side by side. Where the light and dark co-exist. Where we can love our fears, failures & fat. Being whole. Exploring, Discovering, Becoming. Where there is a possibility of living, large and light.

This is the world of Flawsome.

 Would you like to live there?

How to Love Yourself?

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 7, 2017
loving yourself

Do you love yourself?

Do you know that you’re very special and unique? There is no other person like you. You deserve to be loved by the most important person in your life — YOU. We celebrating the month of love starting with YOU. (YOU MATTER YOU SMART YOU KIND YOU POWER YOU  ♥ HEART)

Practicing self-love can be tough for many of us, especially during trying times. It’s not about being self-absorbed or self-centred, it’s about getting in touch with ourselves, our well-being and our joy. We practice self-love so we can break through our limiting beliefs and create & live a life that we truly love.

Below are 21 ways to love yourself: –

  1. Start being honest with yourself about everything going on in your life.
  2. Accept where are right now in your life – without judgement
  3. Connect with your inner self and higher self
  4. Face your inner resistance, barriers and fears
  5. Be kind, compassionate towards yourself
  6. Forgive yourself and others
  7. Make peace with your past
  8. Start enjoying the things and relationships you already have
  9. Start dreaming and doing
  10. Start creating your own happiness
  11. Build and nurture relationships where you feel appreciated and loved. Where you feel safe to be open and vulnerable
  12. Become the love you seek from other people
  13. Pay attention to your stress/worry/tension/anxiety levels and find ways to manage the stress/worry/tension/anxiety.
  14. Be yourself, genuinely and proudly
  15. Nurture and nourish your body
  16. Take care of your time, your space and your finances.
  17. Laugh more in life
  18. Find work and activities you love and that adds joy and meaning
  19. Believe in your abilities
  20. Find the positive during challenging times
  21. Flaunt your Flawsomeness!

Reflections….

Reality of life:  People will come and go.  Events will come and go.  Day and night will come and go.  But deep unconditional love for yourself will always remain with you, if you nurture and nourish it.

“Put these things on your TO-DO list today:

  1. Spend time doing things that help you love yourself more.

  2. Spend time thinking about things that help you love yourself more.

  3. Spend time with people who help you love yourself more.”

Over to YOU…

Which of these points do you struggle with?

How will you love yourself today?

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