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7 Steps to Deal with Doubt

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 March 23, 2018
Deal with Doubt

Life is ever changing and full of uncertainties and doubt. No matter the level of change, uncertainty is simply a part of life. Learning to embrace uncertainty is the key dealing with doubt. When we can’t embrace change and uncertainty is usually leads to feelings of doubt & disappointment . This can make life very difficult.

Doubt sabotages your chances for a happy and fulfilling life.

Doubt includes being self-critical, worrying, lack of trust & conviction, suspicious, indecisiveness, confusion and uncertainty. Most people suffer in silence. Its suffocates your confidence and undermines your abilities in life.

Yes! you can manage self-doubt but it’s a tough road and requires lots of effort. The benefits are far outweighing the effort you need to put in. You will boost your confidence on this journey and raise your self-esteem at the same time. It will be a worthy road trip. Trust me. I am speaking from personal experience with second guessing myself.

 7 Steps to Deal with Doubt

  1. Do one thing at a time. No multitasking
  2. Set smaller goals that you can manage
  3. Surround yourself with supporting & encouraging people
  4. Question your incertitude if its valid or not
  5. Everytime you make excuses or tell stories to avoid acting, write down all the possibilities if you did not have doubt
  6. Get a mentor to hold you accountable for your goals and actions
  7. Write down all your past successes and start believing in yourself

Learn to embrace uncertainty and doubt

You will never be able to control everything in life, as life is full of uncertainties. However, you can always keep yourself prepared to face such uncertainties, obstacles or challenges by planning well, taking quick actions, being flexible, and being patient. Once you start embracing unknown and focusing on the possibilities along with the challenges, you will certainly be become a successful and confident woman who is able to leap any barrier and have a full, rewarding life and career.

Your turn…

How do you deal with being unsure ?  What’s the next smallest step you need to take to turn uncertainty into certainty?

Leave a comment below and share your thoughts with us.  We would love to hear from YOU.

10 Ways to Relax after Work

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 January 20, 2018
10 ways to relax

Relaxing after work is one of my goal for 2018

We into the 3rd week of Jan 2018. I don’t know about you guys, but before the exhaustion of the commute and work pressure get you down. Here are some ideas how to unwind after work.

In 2017, I used to just bite the bullet. Convince myself that this is just life and that I had to keep going no matter what.

But over the holidays, I realized that if I want to be top my game, I need to make my overall well-being a priority. I need to make time to unwind when I get home, time to relax and de-stress.

Life was so much simpler when we were kids. But we were in a hurry to be adults. We thought adulting would be fun and free.

Adulting has been a lot harder. Relaxing is just not on the cards.  I’d get home and think about all the zillion things I wanted or needed to do, so taking a breather wasn’t on the cards. So, if that sounds like your life and you need some help in the de-stressing department, here are

10 easy ways to relax after a long day at work:

Listen to Relaxing Music

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Change into Comfy Clothes

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Enjoy A Glass of Wine 

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Unplug for 2-3 Hours

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Light Up Some Soy Candles

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Use Essential or Aroma Therapy Oils

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Take a Bubble Bath

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Meditate/Do Yoga

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Read A Book

Read a Book

Get Crafty

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My favourite way to relax is listening to soothing music in my comfy cloths sipping tantalising red wine.

How do you unwind after a long day? Let us know in the comment section

15 Stress Busting Tips

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 April 12, 2017

15 Stress Busting Tips

Stress Busting is really needed in today’s fast paced world. Stress is something that everybody deals in their lives. The right dose of stress can actually be good for us. It can make us perform better when needed.

However, if you are in constant state of anxiety and stress it can begin to take its toll, physically, mentally and emotionally. To live a happy and healthy life we need to learn how to deal with stress effectively. I used to get stressed out about so many things, some of which were nothing to stress out about at all. Over the years though, I have learnt many techniques and tools that help me effectively deal with stressful times in my life.

So next time you feel that stress creeping in, try out some of my stress-busting tips. I’d love to share them with you, because although they might seem like common sense, you’d be surprised how many of them you simply aren’t doing.

My 15 Stress Busting Tips:  

  1. Manage your time effectively & Prep for tomorrow.
  2. Change to a healthy lifestyle – Eat, Exercise and Rest Well
  3. Know your limitations and learn to say NO
  4. Avoid unnecessary conflict
  5. Label your negative feelings causing stress – write it down.
  6. Unplug from cellphone, email, text messages, internet
  7. Accept the things you cannot change
  8. Laugh Out Loud
  9. Meditate to relieve stress
  10. Turn up the tunes and dance the stress away
  11. Take care of yourself  to recharge your batteries
  12. Recall one good thing that happened on that day.
  13. Find time to meet friends and have some fun
  14. Try to see things differently, develop a positive thinking style
  15. Avoid alcohol, nicotine and caffeine as coping mechanisms

Over to You

How do you manage your stress levels?

Please let us know. Don’t be shy. Insert your stress buster in the comments section. We would love to hear from you.

1 Simple Phrase that will Change Your Thinking

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 April 3, 2017
One Simple Phrase that will Change Your THinking

One Simple Powerful Phrase that Will Change Your Thinking.

Yes! You are reading correctly. I know it sounds unrealistic and sounds too good to be true Let me elaborate.

Every day we experience life. These experiences develop into little stories. The stories that impact us the most (positive and negative) are stored internally. They entail details of our experiences, about people, places and about life in general. The stories significantly impact how we feel. If the stories are positive, we tend to feel good. If the stories are negative, we tend to lose hope.

The stories we tell ourselves don’t just influence how we feel – they alter what we see, what we experience, and what we know to be true. This is one of the primary reasons multiple people can go through the same experience, but explain it differently. E.g. People witness the same accident but the details will be different – feeling, colour, texture, behaviour, etc. Each of us may enter a shared experience with a different story echoing through our mind. Our unique story – our inner dialogue – alters the way we feel every step of the way, and so each of us exits this shared experience with a slightly different feeling about what just happened.

If we want to get on the same page with one another, and garner a better understanding of reality, we must do a little work.

Perspective is Everything – Blindfold people and put an elephant in front of them – each person’s interpretation.

PerspectiveOur wide-range of different painful past experiences: Being deeply heartbroken, lost our parents, siblings or children to accidents and illnesses, dealt with infidelity, fired from jobs discriminated against for various reasons, being bullied, etc. At times, we experience a situation that triggers our painful story from the past, it shifts our perspective in the present – it narrows it.

It’s just a defence mechanism to protect us from uncertainty and fear. Our mind does not like the discomfort of uncertainty and fear. So, our mind uses the information from our past stories to eliminate the doubts and fears. Our old stories and past experiences are filters to make better sense of everything in the present. And while this approach works sometimes, other times our old stories and past experiences hinder us.

This is where a little reframing helps us move forward. Reframing tools have been proven to change our thoughts and stretch our perspectives. Today, I want to take a brief look at one of these reframing tools with you…

1 Simple Phrase that can change your thinking:

“There is a real possibility that …” – A Reframing Tool

Many of the biggest misunderstandings in life could be avoided if we would simply take the time to ask, Is there another side to the story.

Here’s how it works…

“There is a real possibility that …” can be applied to any life situation,

For example, perhaps your boyfriend didn’t call you in the morning like they said they would. You’re feeling upset because you’re obviously not important to him. When you catch, yourself feeling this way, use the phrase:

“The story I am telling myself is that he didn’t call me because I’m not important to him.”

Then ask yourself:

  1. Is it true? (Yes or no. If no, move to 3.)
  2. Can I absolutely know that it’s true? (Yes or no.)
  3. How do I feel and behave, what happens, when i believe that thought or story?

Give yourself the space to think it all through with an open mind and kindness.

“I don’t know why he has not called yet, but there is a real possibility that…”

  1. “…he is extremely busy at work.”
  2. “…he had an early meeting so he switched off his phone.”
  3. “…his phone battery is dead.”
  4. “…forgot his phone in the car.”
  5. Etc.

Challenge Yourself to Think Differently

“There is a real possibility that…” and the three related questions gives you a tool for revisiting and reframing confusing situations that arise in your life. Detach yourself from the stories you’re telling yourself. Go deeper into reality. Don’t just look at the surface. Explore. Observe without presuming. Discover. With an objective mindset, which allows you to make better decisions and choices about everything.

So, challenge yourself to use this tool… to think differently.

“Who knows what you’ll see when you stop looking through a lens drastically narrowed by half-truths, and you start seeing things with a clearer mind. Maybe you’ll start seeing things you never saw before. Maybe you’ll start experiencing things you never experienced before. Maybe you’ll learn lots of new lessons you needed to learn. And maybe you’ll gradually become the person you always knew you could be.”

Thought for the Road…

At the very least, I hope this post reminds you that positive thinking isn’t about expecting the best to happen every time – it’s about accepting what happens every moment, being aware and objective, and making the very best of every situation.

Think Better Do Better Live Better!

April is Stress Awareness Month

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 April 3, 2016
stress awareness

April is Stress Awareness Month – A month of taking Action to manage your stress

This is a great opportunity to assess the origins of stress, anxiety or tension in your life, learn about effective coping skills and work on ways to reduce the stress, anxiety or tension you experience on a daily basis.

Stress is your response to the world around you – like a situation or an event. It is also a response to a thought or feeling. While stress can be related to good or bad events, our body’s response can be the same. Like a race car at a starting line, the body gears-up to meet the challenge of the stressful situation.

Recognize that you have the power to make decisions, to more effectively manage your stress levels

Firstly you need to Recognize your personal Stress!

We can experience stress on 4 levels:

Physical Mental  Emotional  Social  
Muscle tension

Headaches

Restless sleeps

Stomach and digestive problems

Skin problems

Back Pain

Stiff Jaws

Twitching in eyes

Emotional eating

Developing allergies

Low Energy

 

Poor concentration

Racing thoughts

Forgetfulness

Overthinking negatively

Anxious mind

Poor Decisions

Irritability

Anxiety

Mood swings

Cynicism

Lack of fulfilment

Loneliness

Low self-worth

 Intolerance for others

Lashing out

Unable to interact with others

We’ve all experienced some of these signs in our lives brought on by varying degrees of stress. But if you have been experiencing these signs over a prolonged time, it’s an indicator that you may  have an unhealthy level of stress and you should take steps to eliminate the stressors.

Getting in touch with your stress:

Daily for the next 2 weeks, journal what stressed you out. What about the situation stressed you out? What thoughts you were having during the stressful situation?

Just list all that comes up without judgement or analysis. Do you see a pattern? Do you see a common situation that is causing you stress? Thoughts or beliefs that are stressing you out?

This is a great way to increase our stress awareness.

Choose Happiness Today

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 January 18, 2016
I choose Happiness

What do you choose this “Choose-day”?

Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” —Abraham Lincoln

I CHOOSE HAPPINESS

Happiness is a choice.

Happiness is achievable.

You hold the key to the door of happiness.

When you choose to be happy, life will unfold in magical ways. This is not fairy-tale happiness. Happy all the time. You will feel sad, angry, annoyed, pain, heartbreak, pleasure, empty, bored and all human emotions.

Remember this: For every minute you are angry or irritated, you lose 60 seconds of happiness. Be happy. Be yourself. If others don’t like it, then let them be. Life isn’t about pleasing everybody.

If you have the courage to admit when you’re scared, the ability to laugh even as you cry, the nerve to speak up, even if your voice is shaking, the confidence to ask for help when you need it, and the wisdom to take it when it’s offered, then you have everything you need to get yourself to a happier state of mind. This is real life happiness – messy chaotic and beautiful

Our ways to consciously choose happiness!

  1. Choose to Take Responsibility for your happiness
  2. Choose to Be here NOW
  3. Choose to Surrender to What Is
  4. Choose to Stop the hamster Wheel (overthinking)
  5. Choose Get Out of Your Head and Into the World
  6. Choose to be the best YOU can be
  7. Choose to be Around the Right People
  8. Choose to Focus on What You Have.
  9. Choose a Good Outlook
  10. Choose to Smile More Often
  11. Choose to Take Care of Your Body
  12. Choose Being Honest with yourself and everyone else
  13. Choose to Help Others and Care about people
  14. Choose to Let Go when you know you need to
  15. Choose to Search for Benefit/Positive in Your Pain
  16. Choose to Embrace the Next Step in Life

This “CHOOSE-DAY”

Choose joy and be happy. That will make two of us

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