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Breath of Fresh Air

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 February 6, 2018
Breath of fresh air

When last did you get a breath of fresh air into your life? Body? Mind?

I had the privilege of attending a Breathwork Practitioner Course last weekend. I attended the course out of curiosity and to find new breathing methods to help my Trauma/Tension Release Clients. I use many breathing techniques to help my trauma clients relax deeply and to release the repressed trauma from their bodies. My simple curiosity turned into something profound and magical.

Art of Breathing

The breathing techniques were simple in theory but when diving deep into the breathing it revealed many things about my habits and the way my body responds to my thoughts and feelings. It supports me with every thought and feeling. I yawn when I need more oxygen in my body. My breathing becomes laboured during exercising. When I am stressed my breathing becomes short and quick. I sigh when my body is highly stressed, or I am frustrated.  I know you thinking yawning and sighing is being rude but its actually the body’s way to balancing itself. This level of awareness for me was so profound. I got so excited after discovering the magic of breath.

I know you wondering what is the big deal about breathing. It is a big deal. You have a natural gift that you can use to heal, energise and de-stress. Available and accessible to you anytime anywhere. Do you realise how powerful this is?

Let’s explore the Benefits of breathing deeply:

  1. Frees the Breath
  2. Relaxes the Body
  3. Clears the Mind
  4. Calms the Nerves
  5. Boosts Energy levels
  6. Improves Stamina
  7. Sharper Thinking
  8. Elevates Mood
  9. Increases Feel Good Factor
  10. Decreases Stress and Worry
  11. Heightens Alertness and Focus
  12. Improves Posture and Performance
  13. Detoxes the Body from Toxins
  14. Reduces Physical Pain
  15. Improves Response to Stress and Emotions during Challenging times

Breathing correctly means supplying your body with adequate oxygen and replenishing it with fresh air.

This way you navigate life with more vigour, vitality and verve.

Just Breath – (Happy Sigh)

 

We Breaking Up with Sugar

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 November 14, 2017
breaking up with sugar

I am BREAKING UP WITH SUGAR on this World Diabetes Day

breaking up with sugar

 

IT’S BEEN A GREAT LOVE AFFAIR.

Sugar has comforted me, consoled me, made me happy, celebrated life with me, boost me up when I was down. YES! I am still breaking with sugar! from a distance oh wow it’s the best relationship you could have, BUT EVERYTHING IS NOT ALL SWEET & SEXY ABOUT SUGAR. We were told sugar is harmless (I know and we believed it) My Dear Friends It’s a BIG FAT LIE! It causes weight gain, inflammation, exhaustion, etc. Oh, dear so many unhealthy things. It’s scary.

Let Break-Up with Sugar to feel great about ourselves. We don’t need to sugar to love ourselves. We don’t need sugar to celebrate life, we don’t need sugar to boost our energy. We don’t need sugar to make us happy.  I am doing this for ME. I am choosing health. I am committed to my health. What are you going to do for yourself?

The great love affair is over.

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I can make myself happy. I celebrate life in a new way. I have great friends, a new way of living and to keep myself motivated I am listing the reasons I am breaking up with sugar:

1.             CAUSES WEIGHT GAIN
2.              MAKES YOU HUNGRY
3.              LOWERS IMMUNITY
4.              MOOD IMBALANCES
5.              LOW ENERGY/FATIGUE
6.              INFLAMMATION
7.              DIGESTION ISSUES
8.              TOOTH DECAY AND CAVITIES
9.              DIABETES COMPLICATIONS
10.           HEART DISEASE/STROKE/METABOLIC SYNDROME
11.           CANCER
12.           KIDNEY DISEASE
13.           FATTY LIVER
14.           OSTEOPOROSIS
15.           HORMONE ISSUES
16.           ACCELERATED AGING

17.                  BRAIN FOG
18                   POOR MEMORY
19                   SLEEP ISSUES

 

If this does not convince you? What will?

So, Are you breaking up with Sugar?

Healing the Mother Wound

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 May 14, 2017
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HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND

Today is mother’s day. for some it’s a day of celebration, warmth and love. for some it’s a painful day full of old wounds surfacing. which one is it for you?

I WANT YOU TO TAKE A MOMENT AND THINK ABOUT THE KIND OF RELATIONSHIP YOU HAD WITH YOUR MOTHER

What did it look like? How did it/does feel? Is it good or sad times?

Mum’s are one of the most pivotal players in our growth as children. They help form the very foundation of our emotional and mental development. To this very day our mums or mother-like person continue to influence us both through our deeply ingrained perceptions of life and through our feelings towards ourselves and other people.

Bless our mothers for they tried their best to nurture us. Consciously or unconsciously some mothers have left deep wounds in their children. – Laced with shame, guilt and obligation.

I just thought I mention this before I continue with this blog. I am writing this blog on the day that should be positive, representing love and nurturing. I am the voice of many who feel it more profoundly today. This is not about making you feel bad it’s about finding some healing of this trauma or wound that resides in your heart and mind.

WHAT IS THE MOTHER WOUND?

The Mother Wound is yearning for your mother’s love.

Its unresolved grief, fear, disappointment and resentment towards our mothers long into our adult lives. This deep pain is usually the result of unhealed wounds that are passed on from generation to generation. These wounds consist of toxic and oppressive beliefs, ideals, perceptions and choices.

If you suffer from the Mother Wound you will experience some of the following challenges:

  1. Sabotaging yourself when you experience happiness or success
  2. Possessing undefined personal boundaries.
  3. Cannot say NO and being too submissive
  4. Self-blaming and low self-esteem. Feeling inadequate
  5. Co-dependency relationships
  6. Playing small to be likable and accepted
  7. The inability to speak up
  8. Not in touch with yourself – numb
  9. Self-Sacrificing for other people unnecessarily
  10. Waiting for your mother’s permission on an unconscious level to truly live life

LET’S EXPLORE WHERE DOES THE MOTHER WOUND COME FROM

Women have lived under patriarchal reign for centuries. This very patriarchal society and religions have been instrumental in defining a cultural ideal of what motherhood “should” be.

Because of unrealistic standards, women abandon their dreams, lock away their desires and stifle their needs to strive towards this cultural ideal. This repression is stifling for most women, breeding anger, depression and anxiety, which is then passed on to their children through subtle – or even aggressive – forms of emotional abandonment and manipulation (such as shame, guilt and obligation). This is the Mother Wound!

Don’t get me wrong, I am not blaming our mothers. It’s getting to understand the mother wound a little better. The good news is that you can learn to understand, repair and heal the wounded parts of you.

It’s vital to remember that our mothers are human with flaws. The sooner we embrace this reality, the better. They are not super-women. We would like them to be. It’s an impossible task. We must understand how much our mothers have gone through in the face of these oppressive ideals and unrealistic expectations. It is important that we realize that our mothers have their own wounds as a result. So, they cannot be perfect, (we not perfect too) no matter how hard they try. Do you get this? It’s crucial that you understand this. This is a great way towards forgiveness.

3 STEPS TO HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND

Healing the Mother Wound is a great way to embark on the awakening of the divine feminine within you (this subject is for another blog).

As a woman and a little girl who carries a very deep Mother Wound, I have experienced just how lonely and saddening it can be to feel the emotional and mental absence of your mother. I want to share with you three tips that will help you on your healing path (it has helped me and is still healing me):

  1. LEARN TO SEE YOUR MOTHER AS A PERSON

Say it with me – My mother is a person first then she is my mother. It’s a very essential part of healing. She has had a lifetime of pain and joy before she became your mum. She too was a young girl full of dreams and desires. Discover that aspect of her to see her a whole being and not just your mother. Being your mum is just one part of her. Find your mother’s life story.

  1. LET GO OF YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF YOUR MOTHER.

What are your expectations: “my mother should always be available,” “my mother should be my best friend,” “my mother should always love me,” and so forth?

STOP! Just stop waiting around to receive the love, support and validation of your mother. You know this – you can never change who she is! As you slowly learn to let go of this expectation, the healing begins.

  1. CHANGE YOUR STORY.

Change your story by being a mother to yourself. Learning to love and nurture the wounded parts of yourself. Caring, seeing and giving voice to your inner child or wounded parts. Learning how to love yourself is a very powerful thing. On this journey, you will discover immense amount of healing and resourcefulness. Your wounds will dissolve into a greater compassion for life and yourself. Your start creating a new inner story with a profound inner acceptance.

Over to you …

Healing the Mother Wound within you will transform your life in amazing ways. You will be able to build healthier relationships with yourself and others. Feel more connected. Learn to live and enjoy life.

So, share with me below: what was life like with your mother? Do you still carry the Mother Wound? Would you like to heal your inner child pain and wounds? Get in Touch with us for a complimentary Get Clarity Coaching Session to determine how we can help you heal from the mother wound

 

15 Stress Busting Tips

Posted by Anjana Lala on
 April 12, 2017

15 Stress Busting Tips

Stress Busting is really needed in today’s fast paced world. Stress is something that everybody deals in their lives. The right dose of stress can actually be good for us. It can make us perform better when needed.

However, if you are in constant state of anxiety and stress it can begin to take its toll, physically, mentally and emotionally. To live a happy and healthy life we need to learn how to deal with stress effectively. I used to get stressed out about so many things, some of which were nothing to stress out about at all. Over the years though, I have learnt many techniques and tools that help me effectively deal with stressful times in my life.

So next time you feel that stress creeping in, try out some of my stress-busting tips. I’d love to share them with you, because although they might seem like common sense, you’d be surprised how many of them you simply aren’t doing.

My 15 Stress Busting Tips:  

  1. Manage your time effectively & Prep for tomorrow.
  2. Change to a healthy lifestyle – Eat, Exercise and Rest Well
  3. Know your limitations and learn to say NO
  4. Avoid unnecessary conflict
  5. Label your negative feelings causing stress – write it down.
  6. Unplug from cellphone, email, text messages, internet
  7. Accept the things you cannot change
  8. Laugh Out Loud
  9. Meditate to relieve stress
  10. Turn up the tunes and dance the stress away
  11. Take care of yourself  to recharge your batteries
  12. Recall one good thing that happened on that day.
  13. Find time to meet friends and have some fun
  14. Try to see things differently, develop a positive thinking style
  15. Avoid alcohol, nicotine and caffeine as coping mechanisms

Over to You

How do you manage your stress levels?

Please let us know. Don’t be shy. Insert your stress buster in the comments section. We would love to hear from you.

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